The Pleasures Of Solitute

May 31, 2010 by  
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our orchidsI ended up having a lovely day yesterday; actually very recharging.

I had written about being in a funk in the morning – as I had been waking up feeling down and fighting the feeling throughout the day for the past few days – but then I realized it was a beautiful day.

I usually go to Yoga on Sundays but I knew I needed to do my day differently so I put the dogs in the car and went to the farmer’s market.  Walking around the market amongst the many other people with their partners and children made me feel part of a community.  I guess I could have felt lonely but I have come to a point in my own personal growth that I take the good moments for what they are, good moments.  I have learned to leave myself alone and not have the banter within that could have pointed out that while most people had others, I was alone.

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Being In A Funk, But Being Okay

May 30, 2010 by  
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I have been in a funk these last few days.  I have this deep feeling that the best time of my life is behind me.

I know it may surprise some of you to read that because I’m often so strong and positive.  But that’s how we humans are; complex.  We can have many different thoughts and feelings, sometimes even contradictory happening at the same time.  So the key is to know ourselves well enough to navigate the ups and downs.

Now back to my initial thought. Why do I have the feeling that the best time of my life is behind me?

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Stop Negative Thoughts And Get Out Of A Rut

May 29, 2010 by  
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Combining negative thoughts with a rut is a difficult scenario for anybody to find inspiration and contentment in life.

Negative thoughts can be: always thinking about what we don’t have or always thinking we are going to fail no matter what we do.

Negative thinking zaps our energy away.  So not only we feel bad by the thoughts themselves but we also feel constantly tired and thus create a cycle of “down”.

I think it is important to understand why we have those thoughts but more important is to learn how to stop them from taking over our lives.

Here are some suggestions:

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Memorial Day Quotes

May 28, 2010 by  
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Much inspiration can be gained from the people that have made the ultimate sacrifice when fighting for an ideal they believed in.

A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.

-Joseph Campbell

Each man is a hero and an oracle to somebody.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Peace to each manly soul that sleepeth;

Rest to each faithful eye that weepeth…

- Thomas Moore

Spirit, that made those heroes dare
To die, and leave their children free,
Bid Time and Nature gently spare
The shaft we raise to them and thee.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity

-William Penn

On thy grave the rain shall fall from the eyes of a mighty nation!

-Thomas William Parsons
But the freedom that they fought for, and the country grand they wrought for,
Is their monument to-day, and for aye.

- Thomas Dunn English
The patriot’s blood is the seed of Freedom’s tree

- Thomas Campbell

The brave die never, though they sleep in dust:
Their courage nerves a thousand living men

-Minot J. Savage

All we have of freedom, all we use or know -
This our fathers bought for us long and long ago.

- Rudyard Kipling, The Old Issue, 1899

The dead soldier’s silence sings our national anthem.

- Aaron Kilbourn


Living Life In Black And White

May 28, 2010 by  
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”The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”
Albert Einstein

I’m one of those people whose natural tendency is to see the world as black and white.  I’m right then you must be wrong.  I’m good then you must be bad.

I have had to work hard within my own psyche to see the world as it is; grey and messy.

Living life in black and white mode causes a lot of unnecessary suffering.  If we are good and right then when wronged it is easy for us to feel 1 – that the whole world is against us, 2 – as a victim.

We are neither a victim nor the whole world is against us.  Other people are too busy trying to make sense of their own lives.

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Guilt, How To Indentify And Get Rid Of It.

May 27, 2010 by  
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love-sick1There are different types of guilt.  There is “healthy guilt” where we have done something wrong, we recognize having done something wrong and so we move to apology and fixing, if possible.  We learn from the experience and we move on without making our wrong action define who we are.

There is the bashing guilt and there is no reason for it as it is a completely useless feeling.

So what is this “bashing guilt”?  That’s when we feel we are bad people and only do awful things.  That’s when we talk to ourselves or about ourselves in ways we would never imagine talking about others.  It’s self-hatred and we feel we must punish ourselves.  So we become our own executioners by beating ourselves up with negative thoughts like: “Everything I do is wrong.  I am a loser, a reject”.  Now how could that be of service to our growth and well being?

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Muhammad Ali

May 27, 2010 by  
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One thing we can always appreciate from Muhammad Ali is his confidence in himself even as he is every day robbed by what made him great.


I have always believed in myself, even as a young child growing up in Louisville, Ky. My parents instilled a sense of pride and confidence in me, and taught me and my brother that we could be the best at anything. I must have believed them, because I remember being the neighborhood marble champion and challenging my neighborhood buddies to see who could jump the tallest hedges or run a foot race the length of the block. Of course I knew when I made the challenge that I would win. I never even thought of losing.

In high school, I boasted weekly — if not daily — that one day I was going to be the heavyweight champion of the world. As part of my boxing training, I would run down Fourth Street in downtown Louisville, darting in and out of local shops, taking just enough time to tell them I was training for the Olympics and I was going to win a gold medal. And when I came back home, I was going to turn pro and become the world heavyweight champion in boxing. I never thought of the possibility of failing — only of the fame and glory I was going to get when I won. I could see it. I could almost feel it. When I proclaimed that I was the “Greatest of All Time,” I believed in myself. And I still do.

Throughout my entire boxing career, my belief in my abilities triumphed over the skill of an opponent. My will was stronger than their skills. What I didn’t know was that my will would be tested even more when I retired.

In 1984, I was conclusively diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease…Continued


What Do Dogs And Letters Have In Common?

May 27, 2010 by  
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Shai 002Even though I have two dogs I only watched Marley and me for the first time last night.  I loved the film but the last monologue of Owen Wilson at the end of the film was perfect: A dog doesn’t care what car you drive, where you live, if you are rich or poor.  “Give your love and it will give you its heart.”

I know it’s sentimental but how amazing to be fully loved for who we are regardless of our successes and failures.  Love for love.

This morning I was reading a post on ( on how significant it is to receive a letter in the mail versus an email.  The people and examples the post used talked about being able to feel the writer’s emotions and intends in the letter, something they could not have experienced in an email.

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The Mind Of The Soul

May 26, 2010 by  
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I really like the below blog posted on the Huffington Post today by Dr. Judith Rich.  Among many things it talks about the importance of embracing our pain and difficulties by acknowledging and giving them the room they need.  That is not to say we should be depressed and anxious.  But what we should do is let the pain breathe instead of wanting to bury it with money, sex, drugs, partying or whatever else we use to hide our hurts.  Only by giving enough room to pain, making friends with it, do we come to understand ourselves and not suffer so much.  We learn to make the pain be part of our existence and experience rather than be destroyed by it and the result and wisdom.

The soul is not interested in homes and cars but is interested in experiences and beliefs.  And they include everything and anything.


Soulful Living: Why Is It Cultivating The Soul So Painful

“Everyone should know that you can’t live in any other way than by cultivating the soul.” – Apuleius, Roman writer

Several readers responded to last week’s post, How To Know The Way Of The Soul, with observations that their own soul’s process was extremely painful. One reader asked, ” Does it always have to be so painful?” while another wondered, “How can I stop this pain?”

Thomas Moore, author of Care Of The Soul, writes:

Care of the soul speaks to the longings we feel and to the symptoms that drive us crazy, but it is not a path away from shadow or death. A soulful personality is complicated, multifaceted, and shaped by both pain and pleasure, success and failure. Life lived soulfully is not without its moments of darkness and periods of foolishness.

Soul is the font of who we are, and yet it is far beyond our capacity to devise and to control. We can cultivate, tend, enjoy, and participate in the things of the soul, but we can’t outwit it or manage it or shape it to the designs of a willful ego…Continued


Be Inspired by This Man

May 26, 2010 by  
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Yes, we all age but there are some of us that continue to re-invent and challenge ourselves. Be inspired by this 87 year old man.


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