Living Life In Black And White

May 28, 2010 by  
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”The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”
Albert Einstein

I’m one of those people whose natural tendency is to see the world as black and white.  I’m right then you must be wrong.  I’m good then you must be bad.

I have had to work hard within my own psyche to see the world as it is; grey and messy.

Living life in black and white mode causes a lot of unnecessary suffering.  If we are good and right then when wronged it is easy for us to feel 1 – that the whole world is against us, 2 – as a victim.

We are neither a victim nor the whole world is against us.  Other people are too busy trying to make sense of their own lives.

So after many tears and unanswered “whys”, I got tired of living like that and decided I had to change.  I no longer wanted to feel that every time someone did something that I considered to be wrong it was a personal attack on me.

Here are a few things I have changed and continue to change about myself:

1                    -  Seriously, I’m not that important and neither is anybody else.  So not everything that happens is about me.

2                    -  I’m not the owner of the truth.  Plus there are always many truths.  It always depends on a point of view.

3                    -  I keep my eye on what matters to me.  I no longer get obsessed or insulted or feel victimized by every little thing that happens

4                    -  I now understand people’s actions have everything to do with their needs, desires and shortcomings.  It is mostly about them and not about me or what I consider to be right or wrong.

5                    -  Truthfully most things are not that important.

There are only so many hours in a life time.  Do you really want to spend them by being upset by everything that happens?

“It is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”
William Shakespeare

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