Life Sometimes Can Be Truly Strange

June 30, 2010 by  
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I received an animation file from a director I’m working with and after playing it on my computer another file came up that I clicked to play.  It was of my late husband in a trip he had taken to Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.  He was by beach being taught how to prepare a Caipirinha (our national drink).  I saw his face, I heard his voice and I again wondered “what happened?”

Most of us go on after losing someone who was very close and who we loved very much.   We make new friends, have new experiences, and maybe even fall in love again, but the space within us that a picture, or a recording can bring us back to, I believe never gets filled up with something else.

We are a thinking species and we want to understand life.  We write books, we research, we dialogue, but certain questions continue to go answered.   Death? Soul? Spirit? Consciousness?  Religion and science try to come up with explanations but so far nothing has really quenched our thirst for an absolute certainty.

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Why Are People So Crazy And What Can We Do About It?

June 29, 2010 by  
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How many times a day do we say or think: “People are crazy?”  That’s because we feel it is hard to navigate through their expectations and/or agendas.  We often don’t know what is motivating them and so we are startled by their reaction.

We all have our fears, hang-ups, and hidden motivators.  If we are the kind of people that invest in our personal development we tend to catch ourselves when acting from fear but a great number of us are disconnected from their truth and go through life acting out whatever drama is playing in their heads.

How do we deal with that?

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Stop Being Manipulated

June 28, 2010 by  
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Many years ago I dated a very bright, good looking, neurologist.  In the very beginning he was the best boyfriend ever.  He called every day, carefully planned dates, and was very sweet but a month into the relationship things started to shift ever so slightly.  We would make plans to speak at 5pm but he would disappear until 8pm, leaving me to wonder if we were going to have dinner together or not.  He put me in a kayak in the ocean, for the first time in my life, and got upset when I couldn’t make it past the breaking waves.  Things continued to go south with the last drop being a trip we had planned to take together to NY which changed to include his daughter and turn me into the third wheel.  We were together between 4-5 months.

Looking back, it seems obvious to me that I had been manipulated.  I bought into “he is a neurologist and a nice guy he could never be perverse. There must be something wrong with me.”

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Being Content Today

June 27, 2010 by  
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I often write about being content rather than happy. I thought I should explain why I make this distinction. To me being content is a result of a constant feeling of well being and it is something we can all achieve. We can all work towards letting go of anxiety, low self-esteem and the never ending cycle of looking outside ourselves for every emotional and psychological need we think we have.

What is contentment and how can we achieve it:

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Learning to Appreciate What We Already Have

June 26, 2010 by  
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“All appears to change when we change.” -Henri-Frédéric Amiel

“…our moment-to-moment happiness is largely determined by our outlook.  In fact, whether we are feeling happy or unhappy at any given moment often has very little to do with our absolute conditions but, rather it is a function of how we perceive our situation, how satisfied we are with what we have.” – Dalai Lama

It is okay for us to have dreams and work towards achieving them but having an appreciation for our already achieved accomplishments is what gives us a sense of well being.  If our eyes are always in the future, then our present has no value and we feel depleted and dissatisfied.  Life is meant to be lived in the present.

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Free Prom Provides Respite For Teens With Life-Threatening Illnesses

June 26, 2010 by  
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Los Angeles, California (CNN) — Anna Rahm spent her senior year of high school enduring chemotherapy sessions, blood and platelet transfusions and multiple surgeries, including the amputation of her right leg in October.

“Living with a life-threatening illness every single day, you just wonder if this could be your last day,” said Rahm, who was diagnosed last summer with a rare bone cancer called osteosarcoma.

But last week, the 18-year-old from Chatsworth, California, was able to receive her diploma and attend a one-of-a-kind prom with nearly 200 other teenagers also living with a life-threatening illness.

The annual No Worries Now prom is the brainchild of 20-year-old Fred Scarf. The event is intended to give the teens an opportunity to celebrate their life and their youth in an environment of acceptance and camaraderie…Continued

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How To Stop Being Self-Destructive

June 25, 2010 by  
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“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Jalal ad-Din Rumi

Why are we so self-destructive?  Often the answer is fear. Somehow we are afraid of both succeeding and failing in the things we consider important and we turn to aggression and self-destruction as a way of keeping us from truly going after what we desire.

This life dynamics starts early in our development.  Think back to when we were kids and we liked the girl in pigtails or the boy with the banged up knees.  Most of us pulled the girls’ hair or ignored the boy instead of demonstrating how much we like them for fear of being exposed and rejected.

While that behavior can be cute when we are ten years-old it is destructive when we are adults.

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Change

June 25, 2010 by  
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Three steps to change our lives.

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Loving What Is: Four Questions That Could Change Your Life

June 24, 2010 by  
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I really like this post by Stacey Lawson.  It is an excerpt of her interview with Byron Katie, the writer of such books as “Loving What is” and “A Thousand Names For Joy”.

The reason I like this interview is that it talks about the story WE create around an event and how that story then becomes what perpetuates our pain.   In other words the feelings we attach to an event is what keeps us stuck in that event.

I recently caught myself feeling frustrated and sad about a project I’ve been pouring my heart into but have yet to see what I thought it was the corresponding success.  I was faced with two choices either give up the project or change how I felt about it.  When I changed my expectations  I was able to continue to work on my project with the same enthusiasm I had when I first started.  I changed my thinking and with that I changed the way I was experiencing my project.  I now look forward to the work.

Stacey Lawson

Co-founder of the Center for Entrepreneurship and Technology UC Berkeley

When I read this line in Katie’s best-selling book Loving What Is, it struck a deep chord. We are often encouraged to “Stay in the Now,” and to “Accept What Is,” but the raw truth of Katie’s declaration hit home. Fighting, judging and resisting reality is simply a losing proposition. It’s stressful. And it doesn’t work … 100 percent of the time.

So what does work?

Byron Katie has developed a simple process, called “The Work,” to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the fear and suffering in the world. According to her, it is not the actual events of our lives, but the stories we hold about them, that bring us pain. The key to ending our suffering is examining our unexamined beliefs…Continued

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How To Start A Movement

June 24, 2010 by  
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Brilliant!

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