Stepping Away From Under The Dark Clouds

June 6, 2010 by  
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4295397307_51942ab407While working on changing they way we think and perceive life, it is common to slide back in looking at life through dark glasses.

It is in those times that I make use tools I have collected over the years that work for me such as:

1                    –  I seek solitude and reflect

2                    –  I slow my pace down.  I don’t do anything too strenuous to my body or mind.

3                    –  I make myself a nice meal and don’t worry about the calories.  This is about soothing.

4                    –  I open a good bottle of wine.

5                    –  I put on music

6                    –  I call a friend I know I can have a heart to heart

7                    –  I make sure I keep moving, steadily but with gentleness

We acknowledge the thoughts and the feelings, we give them their space but instead of drowning in them, we work in changing negativity into love and respect for ourselves.

By the time the day is over my mood is different.  Finding what works for you and following it through when the dark clouds are ready to pour, is a solid step at changing dynamics and not being a victim.

Finding meaning in life is the next big step.  Randy Pausch, the professor at Carnegie Mellon, who died of pancreatic cancer in his famous last lecture – and if you haven’t watched I encourage you to do so – said: “We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”   And the brilliant Viktor Frankl (a concentration camp survivor and the founder of logotherapy  said: “We can discover this meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.”

The more we connect to meaning in our lives the less we will be inclined to flutter around.  Having a purpose, whatever that is, is like having a roadmap.  We know where we need to get to.  We may have to take alternate routes but the end point stays in target.

“He who has a why to live can bear with almost any how.'” – Nietzsche

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