Lessons From Sex And The City

July 9, 2010 by  
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Okay, so why am I thinking about Sex and the City?  It could be because the weekend is coming up or that my sister in law was the music editor on the film or a third possibility which will remain…

Anyway, I found these quotes and felt like discussing the great wisdom the four girls imparted on all of us through their trials and tribulations over many television seasons.

Carrie, who is the good friend and whose point of view we saw the show through, while spending many episodes in her quest to find love and the perfect partner, dealt with a number of life issues like: jealousy, confusion, and angst.  At one time she said:

Carrie: “Let’s be honest. Sometimes there is nothing harder in life than being happy for somebody else. Like lottery winners. Or extremely successful people who are 27. And then there’s that hell on earth that only your closest friends can inflict on you — the baby shower.”

Carrie here talks about witnessing other successes while still struggling with achieving her own.  It is hard when we don’t feel good about who we are and the path we are on, to rejoice when others around us are succeeding.

I do know though when we become our own best friend and have an appreciation for who we are and a sense of where we are going, feeling happy for others becomes easier.  That’s because we understand we are not in competition and we couldn’t possibly compare our journey to anybody else’s.  When we arrive at this point, jealously and envy are no longer issues.

Samantha : “There’s two kinds of guys. The ones who hold your hand and the ones that f**k you.”

Here I have to disagree with Samantha.  I think both guys and girls have the ability to be tender, hold hands and have the sex they want.  I’m not disputing the “Madonna whore complex” where both men and women have a difficulty putting together feelings of love with “wild” sex.  In the case of men it usually comes from them having a hard time putting together the mother or the damsel in distress images of their partners with that of a woman who they can have raunchy sex.  With women, mostly it’s the result of being easier to be raunchy with someone you don’t have to wake up in the morning and own all we did the night before.Having said all of that, I know mature people can create a relationship of trust where step by step an experience of love and the type of sex both people wish to have can be created.

Samantha: “Practically all the relationship I know are based on a foundation of lies and deceptions.”

That is true when we have no concept of who we are and what we want.  That is also true when we put our own happiness and well-being in the hands of another person.  If we know, nobody can make us happily ever after and we are clear about how we want to live our lives, it is very possible for us to have a relationship which is based on truth.

Carrie: “As we drive this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost.  And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going.”

Carries is absolutely right.  The only thing I would add is that we should always let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda.  Looking towards the past and getting lost on what didn’t happen prevent us to live life in the moment.

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One Response to “Lessons From Sex And The City”
  1. angierubin says:

    I could add some more quotes from the ladies…: )
    Beautiful piece, sweet D!