Learning To Live In The Moment

September 13, 2010 by  
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What would you do if your child was born with Down’s  Syndrome? Or if your husband was diagnosed with a terminal illness? Or if your house was lost in a fire? Or if your son or daughter was being sent to a war zone?

May you never have to actually answer these questions but being aware that someone is having to answer one or more of them right now, is important.   I’m not being doom and gloom but being aware of life’s frailty helps us remember to embrace the people we love and our lives in as it happens with full commitment.

Two nights ago I met a woman who I had been corresponding with since the launch of my site.  She like me had lost her husband and she like me has learned the importance of embracing life today.

As we talked I shared my love life with her; how unhappy I had been in my first marriage and how ten years passed before I met my second husband Chris.  How happy Chris and I were and how sad it was that it only lasted five years.  She looked at me and said: “But you got to live an entire lifetime in those five years.”  And she was right because in the beginning of our relationship I was aware of how lucky I was to be with such a fantastic man and I embraced every minute of it.  Then later, when Chris was sick, I was aware of how finite our time together was, and I didn’t let anything distract me from being present.

There aren’t too many positive things that come from losing someone but one of them is: we realize there is nothing more important than the present time.

I know sometimes worries, anxieties and frustrations make it hard for us to be in the present, but if we remind ourselves that   1- our future is based on our present, 2 – time past is time gone and 3 – how sad it is when we have postponed saying and experiencing things to only find out time has ran out,   we will come to the understanding that fully committing to the moment is the only way to live.

With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future.  I live now.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

The future is called “perhaps,” which is the only possible thing to call the future.  And the only important thing is not to allow that to scare you.  ~Tennessee Williams, Orpheus Descending, 1957

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