Changing Our Lives
Reading a post on The Frisky this morning made me think back to a turning point in my life. First let me set up the article entitled: “I’m Changing The Voices In My Head”. In the post the author writes of her struggle with her own inside chatter, constantly challenging who she is and what she thinks at every turn. In essence her “voices” are always telling her she is not pretty, lovable, or smart enough. In that state of mind she went to see a therapist who told her she needed to change her cognitive distortions, which means her all or nothing thought pattern; either she is loved by everyone or by no one. Either she is the prettiest woman or the ugliest. The day after seeing the therapist when she caught herself again thinking in an “all or nothing way” she said no to herself. That was the beginning of her transformation.
Now me: I spent years being very self-destructive, the reasons are not important for this post, but what it is relevant is that one day I said “no more”. I simply got tired of being the creator of so much pain and confusion in my own life. Once I committed to living in a different way everything else followed suit. I said goodbye to relationships and behavior and soon after I was experiencing life differently.
I know it’s hard to change but if we want a different life is possible. Change starts when we realize we have a problem and follow with decisive behavior. Realization followed Action.