Learn To Live In The Present
We have ideas of what our lives should look and feel like. But, sometimes we find ourselves living different realities from those of our expectations. We may not have the relationship we want, or the job we want. So, instead of being present we hang on to our dreams and thus we neither live the dream or our reality.
If we lose our gusto for life, because we want a partner and we don’t have one, not only we are missing out on the opportunities and experiences that are possible today but we become less interesting people. Our minds and hearts get stuck on the same thought pattern and in a way become dysfunctional.
Think about a friend who is always talking about his or hers sadness from not having a partner. Now think about someone who is content and finds love and inspiration in other sources. Who would you want to be? The person who has stopped living, or the person who is living in the now?
If you think life philosophies that teach us to live in the present are all well and good for people that already have what they want but not for others, you are wrong. There is no other way to live. Living in the past, future or in our dreams, only keeps us from actually living.
Living in the present is a powerful way to live. It gives us freedom to be. If all we are allowed to experience is what we have idealized our lives to be, we stop our lives flow. We must have trust in the flow of life. We must remember we don’t know everything. There are many doors that open to us on a daily basis we have never considered. Being in the present and open lets us explore experiences and opportunities that may actually give us a great level of satisfaction.
It is not easy to live in the present. It means letting go of control and overcoming anxiety. Living in the present is a part of our development and journey. As we shed away our expectations, joy moves in.
So rest your mind and embrace today. When doubts and anxiety comes up remind yourself it is the only way.
I need neither future nor past, but to learn to take today not too fast. ~Jeb Dickerson,
“Time is swift, it races by; Opportunities are born and die… Still you wait and will not try – A bird with wings who dares not rise and fly.” – A.A. Milne