Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
We are often tempted to look at other people’s lives and compare. But, when we do so we commit a grave error; we forget life is not what it looks like, but what it feels like.
Each one of us has different things to observe, learn, and experience in our journeys. Each one of us has certain facilities and difficulties. And each one of us has different aspirations. How could we compare?
The other loss that takes place when we look around is that we devalue our own life. We forget all the experiences that brought us to where we are today, and compare appearances with appearances. We forget all the struggle and success we have already gone through.
If we are in touch and appreciative of our efforts we know we can never compare our lives to others. Instead we find love and compassion for who we were and who we are today.
I love Shaw’ quote: Never waste jealousy on a real man: it is the imaginary man that supplants us all in the long run. In this quote Shaw clearly states the uselessness of looking at other people’s lives because to fully know someone else’s life we need to be them.
There is much to love and to appreciate about our own existence. Each new experience and understanding turns us into a more profound and layered individual.
Conquering jealousy is a huge accomplishment and points to a person who has found himself or herself.
Turn your attention within and become your own fan. Not the full of air kind, but the kind that has appreciation and compassion for their own life’s journey.
The only journey is the one within – Rainer Maria Rilke