Experiencing Life Through Other People’s Point Of View
Years ago I saw a film called The Joy Luck Club. The film tells the story of a few women and their mothers from the mothers’ point of view. I watched the movie alone late at night. Half way into the film, I started to sob. I was overcome by a deep sorrow of having lived so many years without ever attempting to experience my relationship with my mother from her point of view. In my wants and desires for my life in the world, I had forgotten I was part of her. She had given me life while I wanted to live that life. Because of that experience I was able to gain a new understanding and compassion for her.
Our minds are set up in such a way that we observe and experience everything as if we are the center of the universe. Things and people exist because of us and for us. The result is most often conflict and judgment.
Reminding ourselves to also experience our relationships through other people’s point of view turns our own lives into more layered and rounded existences.
The everyday practice is simply to develop a complete acceptance and openness to all situations and emotions, and to all people, experiencing everything totally without mental reservations and blockages, so that one never withdraws or centralizes onto oneself — Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche