Curb Your Expectations And Live Better
Curbing our expectations allows for true living.
“What was really needed was a fundamental change in our attitude toward life. We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.” – Viktor E. Frankel (neurologist, psychiatrist, writer, concentration camp survivor)
Expectation; the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
While driving to a Christmas party yesterday, I started to go through in my mind different scenarios I hoped would happen at the event.
I knew there were going to be some people there that I’m interested in professionally as well as a guy who from time to time I day dream about. Anyway, when I caught myself getting carried away with all the possibilities of what could happen, I put on the brakes. I asked myself: “Why are you going to ruin a perfectly nice evening by indulging in expectations?” So I stopped and brought my focus back to just driving.
Anytime we have expectations about anything two things usually happen: 1- reality is different from what we imagined and we get disappointed and 2 – we miss whatever opportunity is actually presented to us because we are chasing after a dream we have created.
In my case, I stopped going through the different scenarios and just told myself to be present and to have fun. And that is what I did. I talked to the people that interest me professionally without having to live up to the results I had created in my mind. I also chatted with the guy I day dream about from time to time without expecting anything to happen. At the end of the night, I went home having had a good time.
Expectations, no matter how big or small they are, keep us from living life as is. Think about it.