Connecting To Love On Martin Luther King Jr.’s Birthday
Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illumines it – Martin Luther King Jr.
Today marks the birth of Martin Luther King, Jr., an exceptional man who understood violence begets violence. No one will disagree that MLK had every right to be hateful. But the pastor knew in hate he would destroy himself and what he was trying to accomplish. And even though he was murdered what he had set as his life’s goal and mission did come to fruition. No, we don’t have racial equality today, but we do have laws that protect our ongoing serious discourse. Much has been accomplished and much more needs to happen.
If you think about it, in its essence hate is an emotion of the ego.
“I hate him because he left me. I hate her because she said I was ignorant. I hate him because he fired me. I hate her because she didn’t invite me for her party. I hate them because they think different from me. I hate them because they look different” In every one of these thoughts is the seed of “how could they have done this to me?” And “If I’m right – and I must be – than everyone else has to be wrong.”
Understanding that most potentially hurtful actions perpetuated against us has more to do with the perpetrator than us, helps us not fall prey to the vicious cycle of hate. A person who is well and happy with their lives does not willingly cause pain in others. That person is connected to love and love is a state of being that includes understanding and compassion.
Hate, on the other hand, is self-destructive and hungry for our personal energy. Hating someone or something – without us realizing – drains the energy we need to build positive lives and to love.
Think back in your life to the times you have felt hatred. What was the end result? Did feeling hate get you a positive result?
Hatred ever kills, love never dies. Such is the vast difference between the two. What is obtained by love is retained for all time. What is obtained by hatred proves a burden in reality for it increases hatred -Gandhi