10 Life Lessons We Should Unlearn
Below is a very good post from O Magazine. It talks about 10 misconceptions about life that causes us pain and turmoil. But, the greatest message is; we all march to the beat of our own drums. No matter how hard we try to be and to live like everyone else, we fail. And the reason is, we are all unique. We are the sum of our own experiences, and the way we process them. Yes, we all want to be loved and to love but how we go about it is our own unique path. The same goes for being safe. So why do we put ourselves at the mercy of a set of life rules created by our society when we know they don’t apply?
Success is not how much money we have in the bank. Success is how much closer we are to finding contentment in our growth, wisdom, and meaning. Success is feeling good within without needing confirmation from the outside world.
Life is made up of different experiences which bring different emotional reactions. There is nothing wrong with us when we hurt. There is nothing wrong when we are sad. Those moments are the moments to be in pain and sadness. Respecting, understanding and moving through those moments is wisdom. Trying to force a false sense of happiness isn’t.
Difficulties are difficult. But in the right dose they make us sharpen our thought process and focus.
Please read on. Good stuff to think about…
By Martha Beck
O, The Oprah Magazine
In the past 10 years, I’ve realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I’m most grateful to have unlearned:
1. Problems are bad. You spent your school years solving arbitrary problems imposed by boring authority figures. You learned that problems—comment se dit?—suck. But people without real problems go mad and invent things like base jumping and wedding planning…Continued