Being In A State Of Love
We often cheat ourselves of a quality of life we could all have if only we saw love for what it actually is; a state of being.
Instead we walk around shielding ourselves from any possibility of experiencing love as if sharing love with a friend or a stranger would deplete our finite love arsenal. We erroneously believe love is to be saved until we find that one person who will be the recipient of it.
Love is a quality of life. It is not a narrow emotion which comes into existence when we think we have found a partner. So we live our lives with closed hearts without truly giving or receiving.
It’s sad how we invest so much of our energies looking for love and acceptance without realizing that if we are not willing to commit to open our hearts, we will never find that which we seek.
Without wanting to be cliché, love is all around us. But to experience it we need to be present and not afraid to “expose” ourselves.
Being open to love means smiling when someone smiles at us. Or better yet initiating a smile because we feel open and alive. It means noticing the environment around us; flowers, sun, moon and the soft breeze. It means being compassionate and being of service. And it means laughing with energy and without holding back.
If we open our hearts to life, than love will come in and fill our lives with contentment.
If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism. – Erich Fromm
Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’ – Erich Fromm