Learning To Find Positive In Loss
Today, I was talking to a friend on the phone who used to be a high fashion model. My friend walked the runways for such designers as Valentino, Christian Dior, and Montana. One day while paragliding he became trapped in electrical wires and ended up losing a leg. His life radically changed. He went from making a living from being extremely in shape and good looking to being a man stared at for having a disability. But my friend is a survivor. He went back to paragliding and actually added a few more sports. Today he is an extreme sports athlete.
As we were about to end our conversation, I brought up the fact we both have dealt with great losses. I wasn’t by any means comparing our lives or hardships. It was a comment that fitted the context of our conversation. But his answer to me was clear and direct: “I consider having won much since my accident not losing.” We continued talking and then it was I who said “if we don’t find something positive in loss we become angry and sour.” If we don’t find the positive, it’s hard to keep going.
I shared the importance of fully embracing grief and finding personal transformation in “Why Embracing Grief Is The Only Way Out Of Loss.”
The post below gives concrete steps to move through grief.
Please read on…
6 Mindful Strategies to Recover from the Shock of Loss
By Ronald Alexander, Ph.D.
Today many of us are dealing with devastating losses in our lives, from natural disasters such as the earthquake and tsunami in Japan to losing our homes, jobs and relationships. After the initial shock of any type of trauma, there are, of course, the various stages of grief that everyone goes through, including denial, rationalization, anger and acceptance. For those who are on this journey, it is important to have faith in yourself and the inner compass that guides you…Continued