Deepak’s Second Lifetime Is Actually Happening Earlier

April 29, 2011 by  
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Looking through the internet for interesting posts, I came across the below by Deepak Chopra.  In his post Deepak discusses the quality of life we now have as we live longer.  He refers to a “second lifetime” one that we can focus on a spiritual retreat.  Using the Indian belief of four stages of being – where in the end a person abandons his/hers family and possessions to care for a spiritual journey – Deepak suggests a spiritual retreat where the “old” materialistic preoccupations take back seat to new spiritual ones.

While there is no argument to his suggestions – a life does not have any meaning based on money and power alone – I am of the belief this shift is now happening way before the 50 year old mark to many of us.

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Practice Commitment To Your Own Truth

April 27, 2011 by  
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I have recently received some really good work related news.  I worked really hard to turn a project into a reality and it seems that will be the case.  I shared the news with just a few very close people – I’m waiting for the absolute 100% sureness before sharing with everyone.  The point is while a couple of people were really happy for me a few were also jealous and manipulative.  I’m thinking about someone in particular who is truly close who came up with ways to hurt me.  Now why am I sharing this?  Because I think we often deal with “peculiar” reactions from others but are not prepared and fall pray.

I don’t believe these “peculiar” reactions came from people that wish me badly.  That would be an easy one to deal with; they don’t like and therefore they are not happy for me – they shouldn’t be in my life.  The “peculiar” reactions come from people that actually deeply love me, but they are unwell with themselves.  And that is the key piece of information when dealing with others.  People bring to relationships their own un-wellness.

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Want A Successful Relationship? Start With Yourself

April 25, 2011 by  
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Found the below  interesting article from a couple of days ago in the Huffington Post.

Lisa Firestone, a psychology expert on relationships, discusses how without personal development we keep reenacting our family relationships with our partners.  Combine with that our innate fear of intimacy – which keeps us from fully committing – and the odds aren’t great for a successful relationship.

I’ve written plenty about this subject because I know it all too well.  I’ve been married twice and in between had many unhealthy experiences.

My first marriage – when I was 20 years old – was very abusive and troubled.  When I finally pulled myself out of it, I was only able to do it physically, and so continued on the same pattern of ill relationships.

It took me ten years to realize that the problem had to also reside in me.  With billions of people in the world, I was always ending up with partners that truly didn’t respect or care about me?

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People Watching; A Transformational Experience

April 23, 2011 by  
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Yesterday I saw an amazing documentary – Waste Land.  The film follows renowned Brazilian artist, Vik Muniz, as he travels from Brooklyn NY to Jardim Gramacho in Rio de Janeiro- the largest garbage dump in the world.

If never thought twice about throwing out a piece of paper or a plastic bottle, watch this film and you will through any effort to dispose of your trash in the correct way.  The mountains of garbage are astounding and it makes you wonder if we are not well in our way to be buried in it.

But what is transformational are the people portrayed in this documentary; women, men and children making a living by going through the garbage to find and then separate recyclable materials to sell.   Doing all of it with a sense of pride and community.

The subjects of this documentary are mostly illiterate, but their sense of contentment is huge.  They are able to turn working in a garbage dump into a society of individuals who are doing a service; recycling and thus helping the environment.

Vik Muniz created a series of portraits of the garbage pickers – together with them – using photography and actual garbage.  The pieces have been sold all over the world and have raised over $250,000; money being used to help the community.  The president of the garbage/recycling pickers at the end of the art project was flown to London to watch the auction of his own portrait. The documentary – about Vik, the garbage pickers, and the art project – was nominated for an Oscar.

The garbage pickers who are people living in shacks who work sifting through garbage are now shaking hands with environmentalists from all over the world, going to art openings, museum, auctions,  and being guests in television shows.

There is a scene in the film where Vic Muniz discusses with his wife and assistant if it is correct to open such doors to this group of people if most likely at the end – when the art and documentary projects are finished – they will go back to their lives of picking through garbage.  The wife is uncertain but Vic asks her:  “If I offered you to fly to London to see things you never seen before but told you at the end you would go back to your old life, would you want to go? Wouldn’t seeing other things in the world force you to come up with a plan to live differently?”

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Want To Stop Violence? Start With Yourself

April 21, 2011 by  
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Yesterday, I was sent a very graphic video of the atrocities being committed in Bahrain.   The video was 10 minutes long, but I have to confess I had to stop half way into it.  I have no interest in sharing the details of the video.  It suffices to say it was real and it was close up.

My first reaction was to think how silly I am to have created The Love Project Inc. as a forum to inspire myself and others to lead lives with greater honesty, courage and love.

Watching this video, the images of violence and horror sobered me to a world that has never been part of mine, but which is alive and well, and with consequences affecting all of us.  In that moment I thought; no more Love Project.   It is a naïve attempt in front of such powerful destruction.

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What Forgiveness Really Means To Our Mental Health

April 19, 2011 by  
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I just came across the below post by Marina Cantacuzino.  In it she discusses the nature of forgiveness and the dangers of forgiving too easily.

One of the definitions I found on the web for forgiveness is: “Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and/or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.”

I believe the process of forgiveness starts with an internal journey which results in acceptance and then translates into forgiveness.  I believe this to be a process that’s necessary for the victim to survive and to move forward.

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Want To Be Free? Let Go Of Results

April 16, 2011 by  
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“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”  – John Lennon

I’m always in a hurry.  I want things to happen yesterday, and when they don’t I get frustrated and unhappy.  I have been aware of this shortcoming of mine for a long time without having been completely successful in changing my level of expectation.  But, I do have succeeded in tampering it quite a bit.  And I believe I’m close to the finish line to living in the moment and letting go of results.  And that is what I want to share.

In my journey I first realized four things:

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What Is A Life Well Live After All?

April 14, 2011 by  
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What has interested me about the post below is a clever observation by Dr. Cara Barker.  The doctor, a Jungian analyst, while discussing what a life well lived means asks: “What brings laughter, a smile, or any kind of emotional reaction at a memorial? Is it when a list of accomplishments is read or is it when we recall funny or loving anecdotes about the person who has passed on?”

I don’t think Dr. Barker or I for that matter, are trying to be morbid.  It’s just an astute observation about – after all is said and done – what really mattered.

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Stress; Don’t Give Up On Your Life For It

April 12, 2011 by  
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Got an email from someone in Brazil yesterday talking about stress.  In the middle there was a question.  How much does a glass of water weigh?  Half a pound?  A pound?  It depends on the amount of water and the weight of the glass.  But that is not the point.

Let’s say a half a pound water glass doesn’t weigh much if you hold the glass up for 10 secs.  It also doesn’t weigh much if you hold it up for a minute.  But what if you held the same glass for an hour? Your arm would probably be sore.  Now what about for a whole day? You would probably end up in a hospital with major circulation issues.

So is stress.  If you can rest and recharge there are no major consequences to your well- being.  But if you just keep on going without replenishing yourself with emotional and psychological nourishment, you will most likely crash.

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A Small Act; An Extraordinary Act Of Kindness

April 10, 2011 by  
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Yesterday afternoon, I watched “A Small Act” a documentary about a holocaust survivor, Hilde Back, living in Sweden who sponsors the education of a child in Kenya by sending $15 a month.  The boy, Mburu grew up to go to Harvard Law School and to become a Human Rights Advocate for the United Nations.

Mburu attributes his change in life to Hilda’s charity and today he runs an educational non-profit, The Hilda Back Foundation, in Kenya.

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