How To Transform Grief Into Hope
Grief has been very much on my mind lately. I’m not doom and gloom, but I believe I’m coming full circle in understanding the structure of grief, and most importantly how grief can be turned into healing.
As we go through life we lose friends, relatives, parents, looks, youth, wealth, health, jobs, reputation, possibilities, opportunities, love and at the end of it all, life itself. Wanting or not, loss is part of the human experience. Denying it leaves us in limbo.
Great grief takes away the ground from under our feet. We falter and look for support. It hurts and often feels like it’s going to swallow us whole. It also announces a period of mourning, introspection and the possibility of growth.
Grief without transformation is deadly. Like a deadly virus it eats away at hope, enthusiasm, and beauty leaving us in sadness and despair.
Many of us experience grief as a form of fear. The fear of everything coming to an end, of no way out.
Grief, as hard as it is, needs to be acknowledged and given respect. There is no other way. In our weakest moment we are asked to find the courage to walk through the loss and feel its full impact. But as we do so, something amazing takes place. For the courage we show, we receive knowledge and understanding in return. And at the end of our journey our hearts will see life and the world in a different way.
We learn to appreciate the simple things that take place without much effort on our daily lives. A word from a friend will be more meaningful and a spontaneous laughter more gratifying. We will also have the organic knowledge that life is fleeting but our inner-strength steady. Love for ourselves and compassion for others is at the other side of loss. Believe me.
Grieving is not easy and not something anyone looks forward to. But when time does come we must be brave to put our arms around it and in loss find our own transformation. That is the cycle of life.