Let Go Of The Small Stuff

May 19, 2011 by  
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Learning to let go can be a life-long process, but if we are striving for a well-balanced life, it is a skill we must acquire.

We are bombarded on a daily basis by situations and people that we feel frustrate or mistreat us.  Of course we all also have the devastating loses when we have to experience living without a loved one.  But I’m not going to be talking about that “letting go”.

I want to talk about the letting go of the small stuff because that is what on a daily basis wears us out.

Here’s a very basic example:  yesterday someone wanted to ask me something.  They called my home, office, cell phone and sent Facebook and email messages.   I was really busy and knew what this person wanted to ask could wait until I had some free time.  So I just let go and didn’t attach any thought or feelings to the situation.  In the past I would have let myself be irritated and spent time trying to understand why someone thought that contacting me through all available means, would make me want to speak to them sooner.  I know this is a simple example, but in the described situation I chose to let go instead of getting angry or wasting any time changing my plan of finishing what I needed to do.

I have also learned to let go when I think others are not behaving in the fairest of ways if only my ego is being compromised.   What I mean is, if others are trying to show themselves to be smarter, or more influential, interesting, creative than me, I let them.  By stepping aside and letting go of silly competitions, I spare myself from a confrontation or simply from wasting my time and energy with something that has to do more with the other person than me.

What often causes us to respond in such situations is our own ego.  And we all know a frail ego is one that needs to prove itself every time.

When we are focused on doing the things that are really important to us we automatically let go.  We do so because we realize we only have so much time and energy and they are better spent in the life we want to live.  And not in proving to everyone what we think and who we are is right.

So let go and concentrate in what really matters to you.  It’s a simple trick: when you feel compelled to get involved or respond ask yourself is it really worth it? Is it worth the time? Is it worth the aggravation? Is the outcome important to you? If the answer is no; take a deep breath and step aside.  Only you need to know who you are.

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