You Must Change Your Life
I’m reading a book by May Sarton; “Journal of a Solitude.” In it, besides discussing her day to day, she talks about her observations on self-discovery, wisdom and love. There are many passages I want to share. Below is the first one:
“At any age we grow by the enlarging of consciousness, by learning a new language, or a new art or craft (gardening?) that implies an new way of looking at the universe. Love is one of the great enlargers of the person because it requires us to “take in” the stranger and to understand him, and to exercise restraint and tolerance as well as imagination to make the relationship work. If love includes passion, it is more explosive and dangerous and forces us to go deeper.“ – May Sarton
“Here there is nothing that does not see you. You must change your life.” – Rilke
May Sarton, in the passage above, says to evolve we need to experience change. It sounds simple, but the actuality of it can be often complicated. After all, who likes to move away from a positive experience? A love affair, a great job, health, life. But change we must if we are to gain wisdom. And I am convinced, experience resulting in wisdom, is the ultimate purpose of living.
Experience is not qualitative. It can be perceived as positive or negative. To experience what matters is how we navigate through it and what we get from it.
Birth, loving, aging and dying are the cornerstones of experience. And no true wisdom could be obtained if one did not go through all these three stages personally and with others.
Love is the greatest source of experiences. To love someone means to see the other for who they are and support them in their journey. It means to put aside our egos. And that is why love means transformation. It lets loose of the rules we have created for ourselves so we can feel in control.
The cornerstones of life require courage and living in the present. In exchange they give us the most profound of all gifts; true life.