Should We Take Advice From Others?
I love to talk. I love sharing everything that goes on in my head. I also often ask others: What do you think?
Every person that I ask that question of gives their best shot when answering. They think about my issue and using their love and care for me respond with honesty. This can be a truly satisfying exchange if my objective is by using dialogue, explore different possibilities. But it can also be damaging if I accept the other person’s point of view as my own without that being the case.
The reason is pretty simple: the way each of us sees the world is a result of our own set of values. What is important to others may not be important to us or vice-versa.
When a friend or a family member gives their opinion it is based on what would make them satisfied. Not necessarily on what would make us happy.
Making decisions has to do with taking actions that are in accordance with our personal sense of right and wrong. Making the “correct” decision means maintaining harmony between who we are and how we behave. And that only us can know.
If we use dialoguing with others as a way to explore our own choices and possibilities then it is a great experience. But if we follow what others think because we’re uncertain or because we are afraid of taking responsibility for our unique choice, we may end up finding ourselves in trouble. We most certainly have a better chance of creating harmony with our actions if they are the result of self-exploration.
So dialogue with others but remember in the end it is only you that you need to satisfy with your actions.
There are old heads in the world who cannot help me by their example or advice to live worthily and satisfactorily to myself; but I believe that it is in my power to elevate myself this very hour above the common level of my life – Henry David Thoreau