Can You Afford To Be Vulnerable?
“If you hold back on the emotions–if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them–you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.” — Mitch Albom
There is a great difference between being tough and being strong. Tough is a posture. Strength is the result of lessons learned and wisdom acquired. Opening our hearts and being vulnerable is a consequence of being strong.
When we are afraid of emotions it is often because our core is not strong enough. We are afraid of life’s intensity. And we are afraid to feel hurt. When we feel stronger we can let go of our defense mechanisms and experience life in all its intensity.
But how do we get stronger? By creating an intimate relationship with our own selves. By learning to listen to our inner-voice. By trusting who we are and our abilities.
When we are stronger our emotions flow easily, because we know we don’t have to hide; we will not crumble. Our vulnerability becomes anchored in the wisdom we have gained from being open to life’s experiences. And life is richer for that.