The Truth About Positive Thinking
Positive thinking sells book, newspapers and magazines. That’s it.
I’m not down on being positive. I’m down on a simplistic approach to finding greater contentment in life. Let me explain what I mean:
I don’t believe repeating I’m beautiful time and time again will actually get me to feel beautiful unless a lot of other personal work gets done.
I don’t believe posting notes all over the house with the words “I’m happy” will actually get me to be happy.
But I do believe in hoping for the best as it takes as much effort to dream of things coming out to our satisfaction as it does the other way around.
I also believe in not attaching such absolute qualities as good or bad to everything that happens. Life is more complex than that. In every “bad” situation there is a possibility of good. But if we only see it as bad, then that possibility is not available.
Building a sense of gratitude, appreciation and connection with the self, I believe, will give anyone more satisfaction than the old “Don’t worry be happy.”
Repetition in and of itself is just that; repetition.
Thinking positive all the time is also not real. Again, we are complex beings with multitudes of feelings. Knowing how to navigate through them is where the “happiness” lies. And the charts to navigate the waters are contained in an honest relationship with the self.
Please read on.
It’s Time to End Our Obsession With Positive Thinking
By Roger Covin, Ph. D.
“Don’t worry, be happy.”
This well-meaning piece of advice was the chorus of a popular 80s song by Bobby McFerrin. It also probably represents the general philosophical attitude of western society in terms of how to maximize our quality of life.
There is a wonderful intuitiveness to such advice. Worry and other negative thoughts cause negative emotions, which are not pleasant. Conversely, happiness and thinking positively feel good. Easy choice, right? Continued…