Everybody Is Looking For Love. Or Are We?
If you ask anyone the answer will be yes. We say we want to feel loved and to love. But the truth is while we do want love we raise so many obstacles that love would have to be a champion jumper to get over all the walls we have built.
In today’s world of online dating going out with the opposite sex (or the same sex) is not a problem. Put up a picture then write a few things about yourself and you are good to go.
On the outside, online dating has facilitated meeting others – something that gets progressively harder as you get older –but it also creates an environment where people come in with laundry lists of what they don’t want and an attitude of “next”.
What is the attitude of “next”? As a first impression you are not exactly what I think I’m looking for, so next. Next because just in my geographic area there is thousands of other people eager to meet someone else. Basically the attitude of “next” has turned us into kids in a candy store.
If you are looking to fall in love that will require a combination of two things: physical attraction and getting to know someone else. Do we want the same things out of life? Can we be true friends? Do we respect each other? Do we admire each other? These are questions that can only be answered with time.
As far as the long list of things you don’t want, my suggestion is to exchange those for the things you do want.
So next time you go on a date, try to go without any expectations. See the other person without comparing them to your fantasy. Maybe they will surprise you. If you do seem to have a few things in common, give them a second chance. They might surprise you. And mostly take your walls down. If you really want to fall in love, you must be willing to show and share your heart. Without that there is no falling in love.