The Steps Of Change
“Do one thing every day that scares you” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Change is messy. Change is uncomfortable. But change is the only path to getting where we want to go.
Anyone over the age of thirty, know that as we get older we hold onto who we are and what we have with iron fists. We get settled in our ways and little by little we stop seeing different possibilities of being and living. The consequences of settling is that we stop learning and experiencing. Something inside us starts to feel bored and trapped. Sameness takes over.
The first step of change is to give voice to the restlessness. What is it that of lack of satisfaction I’m feeling is trying to tell me? What in my life needs to change?
This is a period of introspection. We must give it room and time. The answer lies in our ability to stay with the search. To peel away the layers of chaos and find the clear need within ourselves. It is there just waiting to be discovered.
One we know what needs to be change we need to commit to this even more uncomfortable phase. We are people of habits and there is nothing more unsettling than responding to life in a different way. We feel as if we no longer have our baring.
It will be difficult at first. We will fall back into old habits. We will be anxious over responding differently. But, with restrain, thoughtfulness and determination we can succeed.
Change gets us to see the world in a different way. Change gets us to gain greater wisdom. Change makes life more exciting and interesting.
Expose yourself to different experiences. Have the courage to try something outside your comfort zone. Be flexible. Breathe.
And as John Lennon said: “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”