When I became an adult, somehow I bought into the illusion that if I worked really hard and I was a good person then success and happiness would follow. I became such a devout to those ideas that I had every single second of my life accounted for. As I work in the creative field – meaning less structure – I even came up with a way to count how many hours a day I actually spent working. Of course, letting anything or anyone pull me away from my straight jacket schedule was not an option.
What I eventually found out is that in life 1+1 does not always equal 2. Point is that someone who works less hours can actually do better than someone who works non-stop. A person who follows a strict plan of action doesn’t necessarily achieve more than a person who goes with the flow.
Of course, I’m not saying kick up your heels and wait for life to land on your lap. What I am saying is creating rigidity in life does not guarantee anything except choking.
Anyone over the age of twenty-five already knows from experience that we can’t control the outcome of anything. So, really embracing the concept of being open to life’s flow should not be an issue. It should be a foregone conclusion.
Creativity needs space to thrive. Excessive control kills it. And not only that, it also kills opportunities. When we live a regimented life we can’t see opportunities when they present themselves because we are too busy following our plan.
Basically, if we are not open to flow with life we fall out of synch. Life becomes repetitive and we feel uninspired.
Friedrich Nietzsche said: “You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.” I’m sure he wasn’t referring to insanity or craziness. What I believe the great philosopher was referring to was to a pliable heart and mind.
Change, growth, beauty, excitement and pleasure need “chaos”. Filling up every second of our lives with work and keeping anything or anyone away who would interrupt us kills the “chaos”.
Once we understand we need to let go of this fictitious control then letting it happen can feel scary and unsettling at first. It can make us feel as if we are out at sea holding on for dear life. So we don’t have to let go all at once. We can put one toe in the water and then another until both feet are in. We breathe through the process and we constantly remind ourselves that we have everything we need to thrive; we have ourselves. Strong, knowledgeable and confident in our own abilities to move to whatever rhythm life is playing.
My mother always says “we move in the dark”. She’s right. But, if we have a strong core we can move without bumping into things, enjoy the journey and go places we never thought even existed.