Love And Relationship Myths
There is something amazing that happens when we stop looking for others to love us because we feel unloved or because we need someone to fill up a hole within. We actually become able to experience love. Not Hollywood love, not puppy love, but mature and profound love.
When we have spent time getting to know ourselves and have come to enjoy our own company, we are never alone.
When we discover that love comes in many ways and can be experienced in a daily basis, we are no longer starved.
When we find that we can have fun with friends, family or by ourselves, we no longer are dependent on the myth that happiness can only come from a partnership and we smile broadly.
When we finally realize we are complete as we are and don’t need another person to become whole then we are ready to be in love.
A successful relationship is one where two people come together to share their vision of a journey and support each other as they travel. Not as halves, but as two self-sufficient individuals leading complete lives.
Once we feel good about whom we are and the work we do, loving someone else is based on self and mutual respect. Not a relationship out of need, but one born out of partnership.
Nurturing joyful love needs freedom to stretch and grow. Needing someone else to feel complete acts as the exact opposite. We become needy, desperate and most likely incapable of truly experiencing the wonder of love.
Sooner or later we all face our own nature, but if we have forged a relationship with the self we are never alone and always in love regardless of being in a partnership or not.
Please read on…
By Dawn Raffel
“Everybody has one soul mate.” “True lovers can read each other’s minds.” “All you need is love.” A psychotherapist who’s seen it all pokes holes in some of romance’s little fairy tales and explains why life is saner—and happier—without them.
If we could each pick a few songs to banish from our heads, Diana de Vegh would nominate all those soggy old refrains that say there’s one—and only one—true love for each of us: our better half, our shining knight, the person we’ll be lost without. That line of thought, says de Vegh, a therapist in private practice in New York, isn’t benignly corny—it’s harmful, feeding what she calls the myth of love scarcity…Continued