Are We Addicted To Struggle?
I really like the below post by Mike Robbins. I truly get it.
I have been addicted to struggle for most of my life. Somewhere somehow I became convinced that without struggle I would never get what I wanted. Be a job or a relationship. Only hard work could bring success and if something came easily, I was immediately suspicious of it. Thoughts like: “When is the other shoe going to fall?” or “I feel like I cheated because it happened to easily” came easily.
Pretty much I thought without struggle there is no success or happiness. How wrong I was. Getting what we want is not a consequence of struggle. I’m not saying we don’t have to work hard for things, but what I mean is; there is no direct correlation between struggle and happiness. Or struggle and achievement. In my erroneous thinking I had left out that life has its own rhythm.
Actually, if we stop trying to control life by muscleling for what we want, we might actually be surprised that sometimes 1 – things can happen nicely and easily without struggle and 2 – other doors we had not seen before are there open for us.
If we allow ourselves to relax and to believe we deserve contentment then life doesn’t have to be a never ending struggle. We don’t have to suffer to appreciate goodness.
What is the most unfortunate is we become addicted to struggle and often don’t feel like we are making progress if we are not suffering. How can I be advancing my life if I’m not staying up at night?
Changing this damaging mind-set takes time. Drama is addictive. Struggle is addictive. We have to constantly remind ourselves to relax and appreciate the life we already have. Then we have to embrace the concept that we don’t need to pay a price to succeed. Success and contentment is already there for us to receive. We don’t have to prove anything. We already deserve it.
Please read on…
Are You Addicted to Struggle?
By Mike Robbins
During a session I had with my new coach last week it became clear to me that I’ve been addicted to struggle for much of my life. While I wasn’t super excited to admit this, it has actually been quite liberating to address my struggle addiction directly and to see how it impacts just about every aspect of my life and work. How about you? Are you addicted to (or at least very familiar with) struggling in your own life? Continued…