The Power Of Giving And Receiving
Yesterday, I read something I had never thought about, but which it makes perfect sense: when we do something good for someone else we experience the feeling ourselves. That is why giving is receiving. Our brain, heart, soul, experience the doing and the result without discriminating who the ultimate receptor is.
Think about it: if a friend needs consoling over something that has happened in their life, as we embrace and love them, the love we give is also felt by us. The act of consoling is felt by both parties.
If you give money to someone who is in need, as you think about how much that’s going to help that person and the gratitude that will bring, you get to experience the excitement involved in the gesture. Again, the satisfaction impacts both the giver and the receiver.
On the other hand, in the giving and receiving world, it is important to play both roles. Unfortunately, some of us have a hard time receiving, mostly because of low self-esteem. We either think “I’m not worthy to receive” or we masquerade that by thinking: “I don’t need it. I’m too great.” Both thoughts are the two sides of the same coin because thinking we are too great for help is only covering up for I’m not good enough.
Now, truly receiving requires us to embrace our imperfections and our need of others.
Of course, we intellectually know that none of us can ever be perfect. But, in the emotional reality realm, we often struggle with the acceptance of our mistakes and flaws.
It is in those times that we have to apply compassion towards ourselves and remember that ultimately our journey is about acquiring wisdom and that can only happen through trial and error.
Lastly, we are social beings. It is through relationships that we experience life. Giving and receiving is how we relate.
And as Buddha said…
If you knew what I know about the power of giving you would not let a single meal pass without sharing it in some way – Buddha