Key To Successful Relationships: Being Present and Letting Go
Yesterday, I had a long talk with a close friend of mine. He is in his 50s and his life is in disarray. He lost his job a couple of months ago and hasn’t been able to figure out what to do next. So, he decided to stay in the not knowing. He told me he has spent his entire life chasing after things and being a go-getter. Maybe this is the time to release and let life take the course that it needs.
Now, my friend doesn’t have a lot of financial pressure. Not because he is well off, but because his daughter is grown up and he is now single.
I don’t know if what he is doing is wise or not, but he got me thinking about the concept of releasing control.
I have never blinked at charging ahead or inventing and then re-inventing myself. But, what would it be like to sometimes step aside, breathe, and let life unfold? As I think about the question, I realize the answer lies in being present and letting go of expectations. A wise attitude for a relationship.
So often, as we embark in a journey with someone else, we want to know for sure where it will lead us. Is this a relationship that will have a “happily ever after” stamp on? Or is this a relationship that will end? Or even, is this a relationship that will end in disappointment? Questions like; is this worth my time and effort quickly follow.
The truth is; nobody knows. Being in a relationship means living in the moment and letting go of expectations. Simply because relationships are always evolving because the two people involved are constantly changing.
A successful connection is based on the ability of the two people to live in the web and flow of their interactions. So, rather than ask questions like “where this will go?” one should ask “am I happy now?” As long as the answer is yes, then this is a relationship worth staying in.
While I don’t know about my friend’s current posture, I do know when it comes to relationships, letting life take its course is the only wise attitude. And if we are to be successful, we must learn to be present and let go of expectations.