Managing Life’s Struggles
So, I’m in Rio de Janeiro, one of the most beautiful cities in the world. The people are beautiful and friendly and the beaches can be exotic or inviting – it all depends on your mood. But, I’m really here to visit my aging parents. Rio is the city of my birth.
Anyone, with older parents knows how difficult it is to see our loved ones struggle with things that used to be easy to do. To witness their health wane. In my case I also have to deal with the distance between Los Angeles – where I live – and Rio de Janeiro.
My visits are always full of mixed emotions; happiness in seeing them and stress for not being able to stop life’s unstoppable march.
By nature I am a caretaker. When my late husband became ill, I spent the better part of two and a half years taking care of him. I was by his side every minute of his journey. My husband died at home by my side. We slept in the same bed till his last night.
Through all my experiences of care taking, I have learned that we can only give if we take care of ourselves as well. If we don’t fill up the well, it will eventually dry out.
Pain is part of the human experience. There is no way around it. Even if nothing tragic ever happens in your life – yes, there are a few of you out there – one day you will have an aging parent. One day for sure you will have pain.
It is in these times of emotional stress that we need to remember to willfully seek beauty. As sure as I am that we all deal with pain so am I that we can all have beauty. It is all around us. We just need to open ourselves up to it.
Beauty comforts inspires and fills up the well.
Diligently taking breaks to renew our emotional well allows us to go through the different pains life brings us from time to time. It also allows us to give more.
If you are today going through a difficult time find the beauty in your world. I know it can be difficult. I know you can easily dismiss it by thinking “I have no time for this”. But, you do. And it is the only way you will be able to sooth yourself and others. Go out with a friend. Do something that is fulfilling to you. Beauty is pain’s antidote.