I used to be one of those people who boasted about not having a doctor because I was never sick. But then my husband Chris needed a liver transplant, cancer treatments and a burial. In the end of two and a half years of pain and fighting my nervous system took a beating. But, I didn’t realize that was the case until years later.
Other things have happened since then to compound stress to my nervous system and today almost four years after Chris’ passing I know I must deal with life in a different way.
Our bodies are remarkable in their resilience. I know that from experience. When my husband was extremely frail and in need of a liver transplant, I couldn’t imagine how he would ever make the journey back to being a “normal” person. I remember talking on the phone with a woman whose husband had a transplant a year before and heard her saying: “I know you’re wondering how he is going to survive this or go back to a good level of health based on where his mind and body are at now, but he will. The body is amazing.” And that was exactly what happened. Chris had been in his last hours of life when he received his liver transplant. Two months later we were getting married and walking 3 miles a day. His body was back and so was his mind.
I didn’t realize my nervous system was damaged until I started getting skin rashes from nerve endings infections a couple of years later. The rashes were the way my body was telling me; you need to live life differently. If you don’t you’re going to get sick. My unbalanced body was putting me on notice.
When I was younger, my dad used to say to me that health was the greatest gift we had. I must confess I didn’t pay much attention or agreed with his statement – then I could think of many other things that were more pleasurable and fun than just being healthy. I was healthy so I didn’t value it. Years of life have now taught me differently.
Being healthy means a good balance between body and mind. Being healthy means having freedom in life and a smooth aging process.
But being healthy cannot be confused with working out obsessively just for the sake of appearance. Or eating poorly again just for the sake of appearance. Or stressing oneself out to show how much we can get accomplished in a day, hour or in a minute.
Being healthy is about balance between the inside and the outside.
I’ve heard the message and I’m working on a new way of dealing with life’s obstacles. The key is always to put things in prospective, being your own advocate while treating yourself with love and kindness.
Please read on…
The Real Secret to Staying Healthy for Life (Part 1)
by Deepak Chopra