Let Go Of Impatience
I was born without patience. Actually, I was born wanting things to happen instantly. I want it, I take action, I want the result. Unfortunately, I have had to learn that life doesn’t work that way. It doesn’t, simply because while I would like to be the center of the universe, I am not.
Involved in everything we want are others who also have their wants and desires as well as the unexpected because life has its own rhythm. So, rather than live a life of frustrations, I work at cultivating patience.
We need to do it because we are tested on a regular basis. It seems that standing in line or on hold is now a daily occurrence. And so if we don’t practice patience we are going to be buried under a mountain of frustration.
In terms of goals, it seems that achieving what we want now takes more time and more work. There is great competition and many obstacles. So again without practicing patience we will simply self-destruct.
When I know I have to wait long at a doctor’s office or hold a phone to my ear until it feels it’s become part of my being; I talk to myself before it happens. I do it as if talking to a child. I remind myself that losing my “cool” won’t do me any good. It will actually make things worse. I say to myself: “If you want such and such to happen you have to keep calm.” I also make sure to have reading or writing materials so if I can, I’ll make myself busy.
In terms of goals – that’s a tough of one. You really want something, you’ve done all you could, and now you have to wait. But there lies the key to patience. You’ve done all you could. Once I hit that point I tell myself to let go. There is nothing else more to do then to stay busy with other things and let life take its course. The minute I feel the feeling of frustration or impatience creeping in, I turn my attention to something else. I make myself busy. If my mind is engage with living then I have no time to let frustration build up.
Try these techniques and if they don’t work for you, find your own and let me know. Dealing with frustration and impatience is a lifelong commitment. I shall have other suggestions soon.