The Power Of Giving And Receiving

May 17, 2012 by  
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Yesterday, I read something I had never thought about, but which it makes perfect sense: when we do something good for someone else we experience the feeling ourselves.  That is why giving is receiving.  Our brain, heart, soul, experience the doing and the result without discriminating who the ultimate receptor is.

Think about it: if a friend needs consoling over something that has happened in their life, as we embrace and love them, the love we give is also felt by us.  The act of consoling is felt by both parties.

If you give money to someone who is in need, as you think about how much that’s going to help that person and the gratitude that will bring,  you get to experience the excitement involved in the gesture.  Again, the satisfaction impacts both the giver and the receiver.

On the other hand, in the giving and receiving world, it is important to play both roles.  Unfortunately, some of us have a hard time receiving, mostly because of low self-esteem.  We either think “I’m not worthy to receive” or we masquerade that by thinking: “I don’t need it.  I’m too great.”  Both thoughts are the two sides of the same coin because thinking we are too great for help is only covering up for I’m not good enough.

Now, truly receiving requires us to embrace our imperfections and our need of others.

Of course, we intellectually know that none of us can ever be perfect.  But, in the emotional reality realm, we often struggle with the acceptance of our mistakes and flaws.

It is in those times that we have to apply compassion towards ourselves and remember that ultimately our journey is about acquiring wisdom and that can only happen through trial and error.

Lastly, we are social beings.  It is through relationships that we experience life.  Giving and receiving is how we relate.

And as Buddha said…

If you knew what I know about the power of giving you would not let a single meal pass without sharing it in some way – Buddha

 

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A Life Free Of Anger

October 22, 2010 by  
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Angie Rubin

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned – Buddha

Being angry is all consuming.  It gets your adrenaline pumping and it consumes your energy.  You feel like you can’t do anything else except burn through it. I know I’ve been there many a times.

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Bob Thurman And Happiness

March 15, 2010 by  
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Fantastic Ted Talk by Bob Thurman on happiness. Thurman’s focus is on the balance between inner insight and cultural harmony. In interpreting the teachings of Buddha, he argues that happiness can be reliable and satisfying in an enduring way without depriving others.

He considers Buddhism to be primarily a system of education, a science that guides individuals to live life to its fullest.

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Quotes That Make You Think

July 11, 2009 by  
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“Life: a sexually transmitted terminal condition.”- Rainer Maria Rilke

“An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” – Marcel Proust

“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” – Wayne Dyer

“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn

“To dream of the person you wish to be is to waste the person you are” – Unknown

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln

“Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see Life with a clearer view again.” – Unknown

“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.” – Buddha

“Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” – Stephen Covey

“I am not my memories. I am my dreams.” – Terry Hostetler

“To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.” – Confucius

“Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” –  William Wallace

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world.” - Anne Frank

“Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.” – Albert Schweitzer

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” – Bruce Lee

“Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.” -Dale Carnegie

A Japanese proverb: “Fall seven times, stand up eight.”

“They who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” – Edgar Allan Poe

“There is one thing stronger than all the armies in the world, and that is an idea whose time has come.” – Victor Hugo

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