5 Ideas For A More Satisfying Life

March 7, 2011 by  
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I don’t usually go for things like: ten ways to be happy now, or, do these three things and you’ll get everything you have always wanted out of life.  The reason being is I think humans are complex and finding and pursuing a state of well-being is a life-long commitment without easy answers.  But there are general concepts that I believe every person working towards a better life should consider adopting.

1                     – A Sense Of Purpose

We all need that “thing” which gets us up in the morning and keeps our hearts and brains going even when the going gets tough.   We all have desires with meaning which is the gas that keeps our engines going.  The problem is sometimes we get so lost between what society, parents and friends think and expect of us that we lose touch with our purpose.  Finding, reconnecting and embracing our purpose translates into huge steps towards a more fulfilling life.

2                     – Living in the Present

Anyone who thinks “I’m going to be happy when…” I get the job, the money, the relationship I deserve, is in for a big surprise.  Life seldom works as planned.  Something always comes out of left field and postponing being satisfied today for a planned future that may or may not happen seem like a waste of life.

Remember the millions of people that lost their retirement funds years back.  Or couples who plan enjoying life when they retired only never to make to retirement age.

Let’s live in the present and enjoy the relationships, job and money we have today.

3                     - Make Sure There Are Things In Your Life Every Day That Bring You Wellness

That’s so simple to do.  We all have some easy, inexpensive, simple things we can do that can bring us a smile.  Is that sitting in the park for ten minutes?  Calling a loved one and really being present in the conversation instead of going through a to-do list?  A warm bath?  A candle lit dinner?  Even pizza with candles can be a great experience.  A romp with a dog? A romp? Whatever that “thing” is for each one of us, sprinkling these activities a couple of times or even once during the course of our day will affect our mood and ultimately our well-being.

4                     – Relationships

Relationships are like flowers (sorry for being corny here) and if we don’t tend to them they will wither and die.  How many articles, books and movies have been made about a person who dedicates his or her life to achieving goals to only be completely miserable because of not having anyone to share their success with?  We are social beings.  We need each other to survive both physically and psychologically.

There have been many studies that have stated one of the main qualities found in people living long lives is being part of a group. Sharing our lives with others make us feel part of something and feeds our hearts.   In groups we give and receive.

5                     – Give Something Of You To Someone Else

Helping others with our time and energy, places us top in the animal chain. We all need to feel we are contributors in the betterment of this world.  Any gesture, small, medium, or large, will do the trick for us.

Say hello to your neighbor.  Smile at a stranger.  Donate some of your time to a cause.  Loan a shoulder to a friend.  You will feel much better.

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Friendship…Or I’m Trapped

April 18, 2010 by  
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I was brought up by generous parents and was taught, the way we usually are, by example and not by lecture, that when you could help, you did.

My father went overboard and when he was living longer than he expected and started to be seriously concerned about running out of money, we had a long conversation over finances. We reviewed his savings, his social security income, his small investment portfolio, and the state of his health which was surprisingly good considering his age (over 90) and his medical history (two small strokes). In a way, he was preparing me for the fact that when he died there wouldn’t be much left for my brother and me to share. But, more important, he was wondering if he had to start to make those frightening choices between buying food or the prescriptions that were keeping his health devils at bay.

We reviewed his checkbook and quickly advised him to stop sending contributions to every charity that solicited him in the mail. These five and ten dollar contributions added up to hundreds of dollars a year and he could no longer afford the luxury of sending money rather than spending the time to investigate how his contributions were being used.

He agreed and I think he was relieved that we insisted he be more prudent.

About two weeks ago I thought about him. A friend of mine who had no storage space left in his house asked me whether I could store a few cartons for him so he wouldn’t have to pay for commercial storage space. Naturally, I agreed. Then the van backed up into my driveway and carton after carton was removed and packed against one wall of my garage.

I’m not one who is anal enough to carpet my garage, but I am proud of the way the tools and seasonal items are carefully stacked and hung on pegboard and generally arranged so I have room to navigate my car into the garage without a problem. Now though, things are different. The “few” cartons make moving in and out of the garage a slow and tedious process.

I feel angry because I believe that my friend took advantage of me. There is no doubt that it has colored my relationship with him. It would be a lot easier for me if my father was still around and could insist that I call my friend up and tell him how his cartons are impacting my life and ask him to remove them…or at least all but the “few” I had expected. But my father died some years ago. I will eventually bring myself to do it…but for now I just hope that he reads this blog.

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From Party Promoter To Charity Guru

March 18, 2010 by  
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Scott Harisson

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