Learning To Take Responsibility For Our Life Choices

July 7, 2010 by  
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Taking responsibility for our lives means being clear about what we want and don’t want.

Many of us prefer to leave life decisions to the world; we know a situation is going on, we know we need to take a stance but we don’t because it would mean standing up for who we are and what we believe in.   So we show up and hope life will make the decision for us, but when we allow for that to happen, we become victims of chaos and become powerless.

I believe the reason we leave some decisions to the gods is 1 – because we are afraid to make a wrong decision and then have to live with the fact it was us that made the choice 2 – we are afraid that we will seem harsh and 3 – that others may not like us as much because we can easily say “yes” or “no” 4 – we have to deal with the fact that others don’t take ownership for their choices and will so prefer to blame us for seeing things clearly.

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Making A Choice In A Choiceless World

April 23, 2010 by  
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“We do not choose to be born.  We do not choose our parents.  We do not choose our historical epoch, the country of our birth or the immediate circumstances of our upbringing.  We do not, most of us, choose to die, nor do we choose the time or conditions of our death.  But within all this realm of choicelessness, we do choose how we shall live: courageously or in cowardice, honorably or dishonorably, with purpose or in drift.  We decide what is important and what is trivial in life. We decide that what makes us significant is either what we do or what we refuse to do.  But no matter how indifferent the universe may be to our choices and decisions, these choices and decision are ours to make. We decide. We choose. And as we decide and choose, so are our lives formed.”

Joseph Epstein (born January 9, 1937 in Chicago) is an essayist, short story writer, and editor, best known as a former editor of the Phi Beta Kappa Society‘s The American Scholar magazine

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