Be inspired by this man’s resolution to live and be what he chooses.
A husband’s love and an incredible bond.
Darlene Bertil was trapped under concrete for five days in Haiti’s earthquake. She lost both of her hands but not her spirit.
(CNN) — Grammy Award-winning artist Ricky Martin has long been passionate about helping others, serving as a UNICEF goodwill ambassador and working with Habitat for Humanity.
But his main charitable focus is the Ricky Martin Foundation, which he founded to advocate for children around the world.
This year, Martin served on the Blue Ribbon Panel that selected the Top 10 CNN Heroes of the Year. He recently spoke to CNN about the Heroes campaign and his philanthropy. Below are excerpts from that interview.
CNN: What’s the mission of the Ricky Martin Foundation?…Continued
Today I read Theresa Brown’s “A Dying Patient Is Not A Battle Field” on CNN.Com. Theresa is an oncology nurse in Pennsylvania. She is a leading contributor to The New York Times’ blog Well and the author of “Critical Care: A New Nurse Faces Death, Life, and Everything in Between.”
In this particular piece Theresa discusses the end of life of a cancer patient who encouraged by family and doctors decides to continue a losing battle with his illness. The end result was a more brutal death than if the patient had chosen to go home and live what was left of his life the best way possible. Theresa writes if the patient had been given clear information of the consequences of continuing chemotherapy he would have chosen to go home. Most people knowing there is almost no chance for survival would move forward with chemotherapy especially when their bodies are already so weak and fragile.
Nurse Brown, you are so right and wise.
In the last couple of months of my husband’s life it had become clear to me that the end was coming. In the last couple of weeks it was clear the end had arrived.
I have just watched the brilliant TED TALK (ideas worth spreading) below by Lewis Pugh. Please watch as it contains important observations and lessons about life.
Pugh, is a 40-year-old former reservist in Britain’s special forces regiment, the Special Air Service. He has gained worldwide attention for his extreme adventures, designed to dramatize the environmental threats to the planet.
Besides doing something important for the environment Pugh reminds us of how important it is to fully commit to that we want to achieve.
The reason why I’m bringing up both articles is because they both – for different reasons – relate happiness to relationship.
The NYT article discusses the new trends in consumers, due to the economic downturn, which is actually creating a higher level of happiness. Instead of spending money on “things” consumers are spending money on experiences.
” New studies of consumption and happiness show, for instance, that people are happier when they spend money on experiences instead of material objects, when they relish what they plan to buy long before they buy it, and when they stop trying to outdo the Joneses.” – NYT
Saw the below article on CNN.com and thought it was worth sharing.
It talks about the highs we feel when we are in love and the craving when we are rejected. The article actually states that physiologically being in love is the same as being high on cocaine and so when things end we miss it just like we would the drug.
The study was based on brain scans done of twenty year old men and women. I believe if the study had been done on older people the results would have been somewhat different.
Think back to when you were twenty, if you are at that age this post will be something to remember when you get older, and the world was just opening up to you. Most of us were sexually active and living on our own. Everything was new and full of possibilities. And love as “living happily ever after” and the house with the kids, was now a possibility in our lives. Most of us also looked at our partners as the recipient and the giver of all the love we had and could experience. Love at that age is exciting and full of fantasy.
As we get older and mature, love is still exciting but it also becomes profound and we no longer think someone else can be the end all for our emotional needs.
I believe if we suffer through the end of a relationship, as adults, we realize it is not the end of our lives or possibilities. It is sad but surely we will survive because we now have life experience and we are a whole person on our own.
I remember years ago, when a boyfriend decided to end our relationship and my body actually ached as I dealt with not having him anymore. My pain, I didn’t know at the time, was also a result of a very manipulative relationship. I’m not saying it was consciously but he did enjoy seeing me dependent on him and have my feelings be all over the place.
Love is wonderful and energizing and we should all fully live it when we are in a relationship, and if we are connected to ourselves and keep a check on our expectations, we will be okay if and when it ends.
By Elizabeth Landau
(CNN) — Jim Dailakis still remembers how he stood below his then-girlfriend’s balcony, held up a tape player and blasted a George Michael song that the two of them loved.
But this romantic gesture, reminiscent of John Cusack serenading Ione Skye in “Say Anything” (but before that movie came out), didn’t make his first love stay with him forever. After a 2½-year relationship, he got a letter from her in 1988, saying “thanks for everything; we have to move on.”
“The first month was horrible, because when you break up with someone, it’s like a death, but it’s even worse because the corpse goes on living, just without you,” said Dailakis, 41, an Australian-born comedian in New York.
According to new research, the brutality of loving someone who has rejected you has a biological underpinning. A study published in this month’s issue of Journal of Neurophysiology finds that, for those who have been recently rejected, the brain may treat love as an addiction, craving it in the same way as cocaine…Continued
I was very moved by this CNN story. Most people when losing everything end up drowning in self-pity. But sometimes some of us face adversity head on. They accept their situation and let go of what their life was like and in doing that discover a new life. Shay Kelley is one of those people.
Denver, Colorado (CNN) — When Shay Kelley lost her marketing job she got worried. When she lost her home and her car she got mad.
“I went off into the woods and I started yelling at God,” she says. “I didn’t know why God would lead me up to this point in my life just to have me left with nothing.”
“I was like, ‘Just tell me what my purpose is, tell me why I’m here and if you’ll just tell me I’ll work harder than for anything I have ever worked for anything else in my entire life.’ ”
Within weeks she had her answer: Travel to all 50 states in 50 weeks. Collect canned goods for charities along the way and take a ton of pictures. She has dubbed it Project 50/50.
Gallery: Project 50/50
She stayed with friends while she waited tables and got together enough money to buy “Bubba,” her 1984 Ford pickup truck. She packed her camera, which she calls “Roxy,” and her dog, Zu Zu, and hit the road.
She began on New Year’s Day in South Carolina, randomly going door to door to collect canned goods.
“I set a goal of 200 cans a week, which doesn’t sound like a lot, but the premise is [that] doing a little bit adds up to a lot,” Kelley says. “After a year, [that's] 10,000 canned food items.”
She began to meet homeless people as she dropped off the canned goods, and she says they have surprised her with their generosity.
She met Donald, a retired Navy sailor, at a library in South Carolina.
“That was the first week when I learned the people with the least tend to give the most.”