The Truth About Love

January 1, 2011 by  
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heart on the beach

I was married at age twenty to a man who was eleven years my senior.  When I married the man, I was a recent Brazilian arrival doing a lot of drugs and hanging out with all the wrong people.  I thought getting married would settle me down and straight, but instead marked the beginning of the worst period of my life.  The man was intelligent and creative but he was also possessive, manipulative and had an ego that didn’t allow any other human to occupy the same space as his.  Within the first year the intelligent man showed himself as delusional and abusive.   It took me a long time to understand the man’s bravado was a cover up for deep seeded insecurity which he was ready to go to any lengths to hide.  Three years into the marriage, and I no longer knew if what I thought and felt was real or not.  Only my fantasies – where I took refuge- remained mine.  In them I dreamed of being rescued and of living the love story I so much craved.  But back in the real world my husband was busy spraying beer all over me and undermining any attempt I made to stand on my own two legs.

One day, as I stood on the edge of a subway platform, I thought I could make it all stop if I took one step forward.  Now I’m a survivor and that kind of thinking just scared the hell out of me, so I summoned all the courage I had, and sought out help.

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Sometimes The Holidays Make Us Blue;Here Is Why It Shouldn’t

December 26, 2010 by  
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I love the holiday season.  I like the slower days and the lesser pressure to produce.  I like that others in general are also in a more loving mood.  To think years ago I used to detest the holidays.  But that was when I concentrated on what I didn’t have.  I actually used to joke with friends that we should have a party every January 2nd and call it “I Survived The Holidays” party.

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You Don’t Have To Wear A Red String To Find Contentment

November 3, 2010 by  
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Life is often confusing and overwhelming.  We work harder and make less money.  We are bombarded by information 24/7 and spend a great deal of time in the virtual world.  Violence is abundant in many parts of the world and if the wars don’t do us in the environment is waiting in line.

No wonder people are desperate for anyone or anything to tell them everything will be okay.  Read this book, wear these red strings

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Are We Hung Up On Happiness?

October 27, 2010 by  
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Angie Rubin

I really like the below post from the Huffington Post.  It lays out my exact thoughts on happiness and well-being.  Happiness is a fleeting emotion just like anger, sadness, etc.  We get happy when something pleasant happens to us; a party, a new dress, a great concert.  But the feeling we are after should be of well-being.  When we find contentment the feeling is a way of being and it is a constant.  It is who we become.  When we have found a state of well-being, we are able to appreciate who we are and what we have.  And we are content. No fireworks, just a deep feeling of gratitude and knowledge.   Read on.

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by Dan Gottlieb, PH.D.

The U.S. Declaration of Independence gives us the right to pursue happiness. That’s all well and good, but are we finding that the pursuit of happiness can make us miserable?

In today’s culture more people are pursuing happiness and not succeeding, leaving them frustrated and living with a sense of failure. Making matters worse, the pursuit of happiness can make us self-absorbed, which is guaranteed to make us unhappy!…Continued

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First Steps Towards Finding Contentment

October 18, 2010 by  
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By Angie Rubin

I can’t tell you how to live your life.  Actually nobody can.  I also can’t tell you how to find contentment.  Again nobody can.  But I can share with you, life tools I have had to learn to live and thrive.   As I share, take what makes sense to you and leave on the computer screen what doesn’t.

Accepting ourselves and our lives as they are today is the first step towards appreciating life.

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Finding Contentment in Seizing the Moment

October 11, 2010 by  
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How To Achieve Bliss

August 10, 2010 by  
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Think simplicity.

Twice in my life I have experienced complete bliss.

When I lived in NYC, many years ago, I had a house upstate NY in an area which at the time was mostly economically depressed but had amazing mountains, lakes and streams.  I was living in a very abusive relationship which lasted eleven years.  My refuge was going upstate.

I had a friend there who had been born and raised in the small town where my house was.  He built custom made furniture and lived alone in the woods.  He planted and cut his own trees to make beautiful tables, chairs, and beds.  He led a simple life with his dog who only liked two people; him and me.

One night, my friend invited the man I lived with and me to come to dinner.  It was winter, and the night was really quiet.

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Video Blog – 6

August 3, 2010 by  
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Learning to embrace our lives as they are happening. There is no past or future when we are in the present.

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Video Blog – 1

August 2, 2010 by  
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Why I started the Love Project Inc.

This work came out of my need to relate with others who are on a path to truly be who they are and who have the courage to look within and connect with love for themselves and others. It is my hope to form a strong community of people who seek out true contentment.

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Striking A Balance

May 4, 2010 by  
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Yesterday I went to see a film with my parents – I’m still in Brazil – about a very prominent medium who died in 2002 at the age of 92, (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chico_Xavier).

The film was poorly made but that is not the point of this blog.  The point is in a scene – based on an actual televised account by the medium about the episode – the medium is on a plane flying from one state to another when the flight encounters a lot of turbulence.  As the plane dips and shakes, the medium starts screaming and praying in fear for his life. That made no sense being that the medium’s entire life had been lived conversing with souls.

Now let me make my disclaimer here; I don’t believe people converse with souls that continue to be whom there were in life in heaven.  Back to my point; while on live television this medium recounted his experience and laughed at himself and the absurdity of his flying experience. How could have him be afraid of dying?  Wasn’t his whole work about letting others know death was just a continuation of life only in a different realm?

The scene crystallized a thought for me which is; we are beings of opposing thoughts and feelings.  We may be searching and being on the path of love, gratitude and positivism and have the voices of jealousy, and hate within us.  We are not black or white.  We are all the colors and finding contentment and a life style that suits us, is about finding balance of all the voices within us.  It is hearing the voice of fear but not letting it over take our life.  We converse with it but we don’t listen to it.

Chastising ourselves because we have all the colors within us it is not healthy or kind but acknowledging them and striking a balance is.

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