A Problem

January 9, 2010 by  
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I am working on a problem without, up to this point, much success.  The problem is: I take things too personally.  It is as if it’s being done to me, just me and only me.

I’ll give you a simple example:  I had my house painted.  After they were done, the “chief” painter said he would come back to get his ladders and buckets which were laying on the grass in my backyard at another time.  I figured a day or so.

I had thought up to that point that the job done had been superb.  But two days later, I noticed the paint on the door was buckling and the holes, were the house numbers used to be, had not been filled.  So the holes were still holes.

I called the painter and left a message but got no return phone call.  As I had experienced before this painter has an inability to return calls, although he returned my first call about getting the job within 24 hours. Anyway, the following day I place another call to again tell him about the ladders, buckets, door and holes.  This time I was not so cheery; but still no return phone-call.

One day later, I again left a message, only this time as was really angry.  I had become incensed by this painter’s attitude.  How dare he leave his stuff in my backyard now for 5 days?  How dare he not return my calls?

I don’t know the answer to these questions but maybe if I had kept my cool I would have a better chance to get my door and the holes fixed.  Now I’m not so sure.  I should have understood that the problem was the painter and not me.  But my ego got involved and became more important to me to let him know he was messing up.  And of course I got worked up.

So this is the problem I’m working on.  I’m working on not making everything about me.  I’m working on not getting so pissed when things don’t work out exactly how I want them to.  I’m working on concentrating on my ultimate goal and not letting my bruised ego become more important.

Maybe next time I’ll be able to make the phone calls without being angry and maybe things will turn out better.