Staying Healthy

July 31, 2012 by  
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I used to be one of those people who boasted about not having a doctor because I was never sick.  But then my husband Chris needed a liver transplant, cancer treatments and a burial.  In the end of two and a half years of pain and fighting my nervous system took a beating.  But, I didn’t realize that was the case until years later.

Other things have happened since then to compound stress to my nervous system and today almost four years after Chris’ passing I know I must deal with life in a different way.

Our bodies are remarkable in their resilience.  I know that from experience.  When my husband was extremely frail and in need of a liver transplant, I couldn’t imagine how he would ever make the journey back to being a “normal” person.  I remember talking on the phone with a woman whose husband had a transplant a year before and heard her saying: “I know you’re wondering how he is going to survive this or go back to a good level of health based on where his mind and body are at now, but he will.  The body is amazing.”  And that was exactly what happened.  Chris had been in his last hours of life when he received his liver transplant.  Two months later we were getting married and walking 3 miles a day.  His body was back and so was his mind.

I didn’t realize my nervous system was damaged until I started getting skin rashes from nerve endings infections a couple of years later.     The rashes were the way my body was telling me; you need to live life differently.  If you don’t you’re going to get sick.  My unbalanced body was putting me on notice.

When I was younger, my dad used to say to me that health was the greatest gift we had.  I must confess I didn’t pay much attention or agreed with his statement – then I could think of many other things that were more pleasurable and fun than just being healthy.  I was healthy so I didn’t value it.  Years of life have now taught me differently.

Being healthy means a good balance between body and mind.  Being healthy means having freedom in life and a smooth aging process.

But being healthy cannot be confused with working out obsessively just for the sake of appearance.   Or eating poorly again just for the sake of appearance.  Or stressing oneself out to show how much we can get accomplished in a day, hour or in a minute.

Being healthy is about balance between the inside and the outside.

I’ve heard the message and I’m working on a new way of dealing with life’s obstacles.  The key is always to put things in prospective, being your own advocate while treating yourself with love and kindness.

Please read on…

The Real Secret to Staying Healthy for Life (Part 1)

by Deepak Chopra

If you want to stay healthy for life, you need to take care of yourself. That’s the conventional wisdom. It’s a frequent guilty reminder when we look in the mirror and realize that we aren’t in the best shape. “I’ve got to start taking better care of myself.” …Continued

 

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Living A Life Of Love

March 29, 2012 by  
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What a great article by Deepak Chopra (see below).

In it he discusses at length love as a state of being and not a feeling that we can fall into and out of.

I have many times written about taking a journey within as if we were courting someone we were interested in.  We take steps to get to know the person.  We listen to them and we plan to do things that will make them smile.  And so is the same as we journey within.  We get to know ourselves, we make time to listen to our hearts and we do things that bring us pleasure. And in the end we create a strong love bond with our own selves.

It is only from that place that we can truly love others.  Because when we love ourselves, we don’t need others to fill a void inside.  It is actually the contrary.  We need others so we can share that which we already have.  That is the nature of love; sharing.

If we don’t live in love then having someone come into our lives is a cause of happiness and of disaster.  Happiness when the person comes into our lives and disaster as they depart because with them they take away our feeling of wellness. Even as those feelings were always temporary as they were not created within.  If we lived in love we would become sad when a relationship ended, but never lose sight of ourselves or lose love in our lives.

Living in love turns the experience of life into a compassionate and exciting journey.

Please read on…

The 5-Step Path to a Life of Love

By Deepak Chopra

Deepak Chopra, co-founder of the Chopra Foundation and co-author of War of the Worldviews: Science vs. Spirituality, reveals how to create a life founded on the world’s most generous and joyful emotion.

Love has arrived at a strange crossroads. It seems very odd to say, “I want to be more loving. Is there a scientist who can help with that?” But in modern life, our notion of love has shifted. More and more we are told—in magazines, learned journals and media reports—that love can be broken down into medical explanations, that it is produced by reactions in the brain, both chemical and electrical…Continued

 

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The Value Of A Great Sense Of Self

March 9, 2012 by  
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Interesting post by Deepak Chopra (see below) where he takes on scientific as well as religious believes about the self.

Yes, many of our behaviors and thoughts come from our chemistry and yes it is the ego that keeps us eternally running in the rat’s wheel.

As I’m not a scientist or a believer – or think it matters for the purpose of discussing the self – I’ll leave that alone.

What I know – and humbly agree with Deepak – is that there is something else.  I’m sure of it only because it has had the greatest impact in my own life; it is the self.

As I invest in MY self, the life objective is not so much to fully understand in an intellectual way who am I or the quintessential question what’s my purpose in life.  It really is to create a greater sense of harmony – a feeling of well-being.

I know – from personal experience – that a connection with the self can sooth, balance, and comfort.  I know, a connection with the self, creates a bond from where we can operate in the world in a more satisfying way.  Having a strong knowing connection allows us to be free and to be whom we are without needing to define that and without being fearful.

It doesn’t matter if this self is a combination of things or of nothing.  We don’t need to define what it is to bask in its gift as creating a connection with the self gives us a solid footing from where we can calmly deal with life’s ups and downs without following the bouncing ball.

So how do we create this bond?  Initially through saving some of our time and energy to just be with ourselves and to listen to our own thoughts.  It is called solitude. Once we start appreciating the effects of giving our inner-selves a voice, we will go back to the pond every time for answers and harmony.

Please read on.

Seeking The Self: A Ghost Story

By Deepak Chopra

We are all quite certain that we have a self. When you say “I like chocolate” or “I vote progressive,” no one asks what you mean by “I.” That task was left for centuries to philosophers and theologians. “Know thyself” is an axiom worth heeding, but what is there to know? If one camp of modern science has its way, the answer is “nothing.” The self, we are told, is an illusion created by the complexity of brain functions. As thousands of inputs bombard each other every second, forming an almost infinite tangle of neural messages, a ghost was created whose name is “I.” …Continued

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Are You Afraid Of Dying?

May 31, 2011 by  
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I went to see a film, “Tree of Life”, on Saturday with a friend of mine.  The film, written and directed by Terrence Malick, deals with such existential questions as: Where is God? Where is the person I used to be? And where are the people that have departed?  Terrence Malick, in my opinion, doesn’t tell stories, but instead he opens the door to the possibility of a deeply intimate voyage.  His images, words and sounds are the conduit, but the experience is unique to each one of us.

On the way home, while talking about the film, my friend said: “I’m not afraid of dying.”  It was the second time that week I was hearing the same statement.  This time I thought I should ask what this friend meant.  He went on to explain that at some point in his life he had been a drug-addict and an alcoholic, and because of that he had developed some serious medical conditions that would end in death if he didn’t stop with the addiction.  Because he loved life more than drugs and alcohol, he went into a facility and now has been sober for twenty years.

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Deepak’s Second Lifetime Is Actually Happening Earlier

April 29, 2011 by  
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Looking through the internet for interesting posts, I came across the below by Deepak Chopra.  In his post Deepak discusses the quality of life we now have as we live longer.  He refers to a “second lifetime” one that we can focus on a spiritual retreat.  Using the Indian belief of four stages of being – where in the end a person abandons his/hers family and possessions to care for a spiritual journey – Deepak suggests a spiritual retreat where the “old” materialistic preoccupations take back seat to new spiritual ones.

While there is no argument to his suggestions – a life does not have any meaning based on money and power alone – I am of the belief this shift is now happening way before the 50 year old mark to many of us.

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What About Self-Help?

May 18, 2010 by  
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EYE-4Just read an article by Deepak Chopra (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/deepak-chopra/when-you-help-yourself-wh_b_578892.html).  It’s a good post about self-help really being about self-discovery if it is to have lasting changes.

What he left out is that self-help is really an American phenomenon.  Somehow we have developed a society that needs to read about, having sex, loving, being in a relationship, being happier, finding ourselves etc. instead of just being.  Why is that?

I think one of the answers is our values as a society, families, and individuals.  In the United States we live under constant pressure to work and to succeed while the rest of the world uses work as a means to have more fun. To us work is an end unto itself and success defines us.  The result is that more and more we live in our own world of trying to succeed and less and less in actually living.  And we are in a hurry, so we want immediate answers.

We want to have good sex now.  So instead of communicating with our partners, spending the time to actually enjoy the intimacy, we read books that give us step by step ways to have better sex.

We want a better relationship now.  So instead of giving the time and attention a relationship needs we read a manual on how to make it better.  We don’t have the time to just be.

I’m not ditching self-help books but am saying the answer, as Mr. Chopra has written, lays within us.  It also lays in the way we live our lives, and in the ways we have constructed our societal set of values.

Work and technology are tools to allow us to have better relationships with others and ourselves.  Not the other way around.  So if we really want to have better sex, relationships, lives, we need first to set our priorities straight.  Once we do that, we are set to take the voyage of self knowledge and most likely will not need any self-help books.

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