Staying In The Flow Of Life

October 14, 2011 by  
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“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them — that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao-Tzu

So much pain and disappointment come from not accepting reality when it presents itself to us as a fact and a force that cannot be changed.  If we don’t this reality we think:  I don’t deserve this or Why me?  And then we rebel against that which cannot be changed.

What we forget is that nature and life have their own rhythm.  It is not personal. “Bad” things aren’t happening to us because we are evil people.  “Bad” things like “good” things are just expressions of life.  The qualities we apply – bad or good – come from our interpretation of them.  To life it is simply experience.

Understanding the purpose of life – to gain wisdom through experiences – allows us to accept the flow of life with more ease.  We start to see that even that which hurts has a purpose.

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Life In 2011. How Do You Want It To Feel Like?

December 28, 2010 by  
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The New Year is upon us.  For the first time in a very long time I’m seeing this New Year differently.  Let me explain;  obviously there isn’t a concrete separation between 2010 and 2011.  It is not like a bell goes off and all about your life in 2010 ends and the slate is blank.  But, there might be a psychological opportunity that if we want we can make use of.

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Stop Wishing For Things To Be Different

November 10, 2010 by  
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Life is complicated and often trying but one thing I do know: wishing for things to be different – especially if they have already happened – it is a waste of time.

Yesterday, I decided I was going to count how many times I heard: “I wish things were different” or some form of it.  In twenty-four hours the count came to seven.  That might not seem like a high number but if you take in consideration I was asleep or alone some of those hours, you’ll recognize the impact of my findings.

Each time I heard I”I wish things were different” I simply answered: “but they aren’t.”   It’s a simple and profound answer.  By accepting and embracing our lives as they are, we place ourselves in the moment and in the driver’s seat.   We stop being passive bystanders of our own lives and become active in how we want things to be today.

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Don’t Let Fear Of Loss Close Your Heart

November 1, 2010 by  
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Angie Rubin

I’m in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, the city and country I grew up in, visiting my parents.

I have not lived in this city for over twenty years, and so being here is always very emotional as I reconnect with past feelings and history.

I am here staying with my parents who are now in their 80s. I’m aware of their frailty and our time together coming to an end.  I’m not living the pain of loss, but I recognize the beginning of my own grieving process. I honor my feelings while I create new experiences.

As I deal with my emotions, thoughts come to my mind:  would it have been easier if I had let past disagreements have broken us apart?  Would it be easier now, if I had stopped myself from loving them as much as I do?

As I entertain those thoughts I realize that’s what so many of us do with our relationships, wishes and desires.

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