Feeling Blue? Don’t Fret. It Might Be A Good Thing.

October 8, 2011 by  
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This morning I woke up feeling blue.

I have been working non-stop on many different projects that are meaningful and important to me.  They keep me engaged and sharp.  But this morning my thoughts were turned to my family.

I called my parents and was reminded it was Yom Kippur; Day of Atonement.  I had not planned to go to temple or to fast.  I’m not an observant Jew.  But the fact I didn’t even remember it was the most important Jewish day of the year underscored my feeling of disconnection.

As I tried to understand my feelings I realized my ache came from me pining for a situation, a relationship that does not exist.  I was pining for a happy family where everyone is there to support each other.  That is not my family,  my family has real problems.

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Feeling in a Rut; Here’s Some Help

December 7, 2010 by  
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I really like this post by Jeffrey Hull on the Huffington Post.   Jeffrey is a writer and a psychologist and in this particular post he gives specific advice in how to change our lives when we find ourselves in a rut.

As we are creatures of habit we tend to turn everything in our lives into a routine.  Regardless of how interesting an activity is, if we repeat it every day in the same fashion, it will soon lose its spark.

In order to keep our lives fresh we must first be in touch with ourselves.  We need to have the relationship with us that lets us know the sadness or lack of inspiration are coming from a life being lived in the same fashion on a daily basis.

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Move Chaotic Emotions Aside to Find Real Answers

November 27, 2010 by  
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It’s so easy to see other people’s troubles clearly.  And it also seems easy to see what they should do to get out of their suffering.  The reason for that is simple: we are not emotionally invested and conflicted in other people’s problems. So we think we can see and resolve their problems without much effort.

But, when it comes to our issues we have feelings.  We also have all the voices in our head (read yesterday’s blog) vying for their opinion to be the decisive one.

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When Feeling Blue

April 26, 2010 by  
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When your heart hurts, run and give yourself a hand.  You can do it.

In those moments when you feel alone remember you have yourself.  Who could possibly better soothe your pain away than you, who has known yourself your entire life time?

Of course partners, family, friends, lovers are great help to show us a door when we feel we are cornered.  But the truth is unless we do the rescuing ourselves, outside hands are just band aids.

In my life there are those moments that I actually have to lean against the wall to feel something strong pushing against me.  And when I do it, I let it all out; no holding back.  I feel the loss of my husband, the loss of a cherished life, my fears, and disappointments.

Once I’m done, I take myself away from the wall – with the love I would with a child with snot all over her face from crying – and I do something nice to distract myself.  Music, a film, a book, my dogs, wine, food, a friend; whatever it is that I think I need at that moment.  And then I move on.  Because that is what we do; we keep living and we keep moving forward.

So next time you feel blue, don’t run away from it.  Embrace the feelings, understand where they are coming from and then offer yourself a way to move on.   It is only when we are able to embrace our pain that we can truly find happiness.

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Feeling Blue

August 27, 2009 by  
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So sometimes things are a little hard and no matter how much effort we put into life things just don’t seem to move forward.  I’m feeling like that today.  I’ve been working hard on a few things and I just feel that the effort I’m putting into them is not showing.  That’s how I’m feeling but I know life is always changing so what’s today won’t be tomorrow.  So I keep telling myself that and I take a deep breath and I plow forward.  I know that if I’m working hard on something worth while it will eventually pay off.  It’s like planting; prepare the soil, bury the seeds, water the soil and only when the seeds are ready to grow, they will.  In the meantime, I slow down, and I look around to see what I have in life that is beautiful.  As I do that, I’m able to breathe more freely and I have more patients to wait for my seeds to burst into the plants I hope they will. 

Below is a quote/poem/saying, I found on the web that I wanted to share:

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint on the clouds of doubt,
And you can never tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit.

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