Bonding Behaviors

September 1, 2009 by  
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Written by Marnia Robinson

Want to bond more deeply with your lover? Use these behaviors to speak directly to the only part of your brains that can fall in love, or stay in love. The desire for, and rewards of, these behaviors are deeply rooted in millions of year of evolution. Enjoy!

  • smiling, with eye contact
  • skin-to-skin contact
  • holding, or spooning, each other in stillness for at least twenty minutes to a half-hour
  • wordless sounds of contentment and pleasure
  • stroking with intent to comfort
  • massaging with intent to comfort, especially feet, shoulders and head
  • hugging with intent to comfort
  • lying with your ear over your partner’s heart and listening to his or her heartbeat for several moments
  • gently placing your palm over your lover’s genitals with intent to comfort
  • providing a service or treat without being asked
  • giving unsolicited approval, via smiles or compliments
  • gazing into each other’s eyes for several moments
  • listening intently, and restating what you hear
  • forgiving or overlooking an error or thoughtless remark, whether past or present
  • preparing your partner something to eat
  • synchronized breathing
  • kissing with lips and tongues
  • making time together at bedtime a priority (even if one partner has to get up and work on something afterward)

Marnia Robinson (with degrees from Brown and Yale) is a former corporate lawyer who left her career to investigate how ancient sacred-sex prescriptions can heal disharmony in intimate relationships. She is the author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships. Her work has been featured in the award-winning anthology Toward 2012: Perspectives on the Next Age. She runs the web site Reuniting: Healing with Sexual Relationships, and resides in Ashland, Oregon with her husband, Gary Wilson.


A Polar Bear Story

July 3, 2009 by  
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I don’t know if the story is true or not but I’ll chose to believe that it is.  But as they say a picture is worth a thousand words.  Check it out:

Norbert Rosing’s striking images of a wild polar bear coming upon tethered sled dogs in the wilds of Canada’s Hudson Bay. 



The Photographer was sure that he was going to see the end of his dogs when this
Polar bear wandered in but instead, the strangest of things happened…




It was so hard to believe, but this bear only needed someone to hug! 




And during the entire week, that Polar Bear came around every night to play with the dogs.




A Twitter Question

July 2, 2009 by  
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Today I got a twitter message asking what was the reason for The Love Project.  Because I only have 140 characters to respond my answer was short but hopefully clear.  But what I would have wanted to respond if I had more characters to spare is; take a look at the front page of any newspaper and news website and the purpose of The Love Project will start to become clearer. 

For example today’s landing page:

Latest News

Jackson’s will answers questions, raise more

Captured U.S. soldier reportedly sold to clan

‘Major operation’ under way n Afghanistan

Report: North Korea test fires two missiles

CNNMoney: Job market takes turn for the worse


How are we supposed to go out into the world with such news?  I don’t know about you but after reading the Latest News, I want to hide under my bed.

Why is that the extraordinary deeds performed by regular people every day don’t make to the front pages?  Wouldn’t it be great to have positive, inspiring news mixed in with the harsh ones? What if the latest news looked like the below?

Latest News

Jackson’s will answers questions, raise more

Cleaning lady puts daughter through law school

Captured U.S. soldier reportedly sold to clan

Starving African child shares food with friends

‘Major operation’ under way in Afghanistan

Today is hug day in America, step outside and get yours

With the above at least we have a fighting chance for a good day and maybe when we say “Have a good day” to others we might just actually mean it.