Is The Glass Half Full Or Half Empty? Your Choice

July 21, 2011 by  
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I think one of the wisest sayings is: “You can look at a glass and see it half empty or half full.”  So much of our contentment comes from how we see and experience things.  But, having all that power most of us will choose to look at the glass half empty and in those occasions when we see it half full, we will move on too quickly so we can start worrying about what isn’t right.  There is no way to have an enjoyable life living in this manner.

I am one who has spent most of my adult life with my thinking in the future on the things I wished for and didn’t have.  So many wonderful things happened during those years without me truly giving them the time to fully enjoy what had come to me as a result of either my own effort or of life’s mysteries.

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Change Your Beliefs; Change Your Life

March 5, 2011 by  
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In writing how our beliefs shape our actions, Susan Smalley, suggests we investigate these beliefs to understand if they are bringing about kindness and positivity or envy and anger to our lives.  Not as a moral stance – kindness is good and envy is bad – but because of how we experience life based on our beliefs.  Below is an excerpt of her post:

Joseph Campbell wrote at great length about the power of mythology. I was beginning to see how our beliefs — our mythologies — provide us with a means of understanding the unknown (in my friend’s case, this odd phenomenon of 111). If what we believe generates compassion, love, and helpful actions, perhaps those beliefs are beneficial to oneself and humanity at large. If our beliefs generate intolerance, inequality and hatred, perhaps those are ones you may want to jettison. But we need to examine how we relate to our beliefs, maybe more than dispelling of them as fact or fiction.”

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Is The Glass Half Full Or Half Empty? Your Choice

November 14, 2010 by  
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One of the concepts that we seem to have a difficult time with is what one of Shakespeare’s quotes addresses: “Things are neither good nor bad but thinking makes it so.”  Or in more colloquial terms: “Is the glass half full or half empty?”  Depends on how you see it.

Every experience carries in itself an unlimited number of possibilities for us to experience different emotions and reactions.  Which emotion or reaction we will have to a situation depends on us.  Even the ultimate – the loss of a loved one – has the possibility to allow us to create something positive in our life experience.  In the loss we may find strength and creativity we didn’t know we had.  We may find a depth of love we were not aware of.  Or we may find a different set of values and path.

Knowing how much say we actually have in the way we experience our lives is empowering and liberating.

Below is an excerpt I found in Oprah’s magazine.

“… friend, Margo, had to get back from a business trip in time for an extremely important meeting at work. But somehow, she didn’t allow enough time to get to the airport, and she missed her plane. Margo began rebuking herself: “I should have left last night. I should have taken an earlier plane.” Then a funny thing happened. As Margo thought about the things she could have done differently, she realized that she always had choices; in fact, she chose her reaction to this situation. She decided not to obsess about it, and, after calling her boss to apologize, used her newfound free time to take a walk. As Margo relaxed, her creativity flowed and she started to feel positive about the future, whatever the outcome.

The next morning, when she arrived at work, she learned that several people had been similarly delayed, and the meeting had been postponed until that day.

Margo was a smash. Having let go of her fear and self-recrimination, she had a lot more to offer. Missing her flight would have been a failure only if she had refused to learn.

Spiritual lessons are everywhere. When we see our work as part of the playing field for personal growth, we become less enmeshed in it and less frantic about the outcome. Then we can enjoy it more, and we can make a greater contribution. ..”  Anne Wilson Schaef, Ph.D., is the author of Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much and Meditations for Living in Balance.

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