Feeling Blue? Don’t Fret. It Might Be A Good Thing.

October 8, 2011 by  
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This morning I woke up feeling blue.

I have been working non-stop on many different projects that are meaningful and important to me.  They keep me engaged and sharp.  But this morning my thoughts were turned to my family.

I called my parents and was reminded it was Yom Kippur; Day of Atonement.  I had not planned to go to temple or to fast.  I’m not an observant Jew.  But the fact I didn’t even remember it was the most important Jewish day of the year underscored my feeling of disconnection.

As I tried to understand my feelings I realized my ache came from me pining for a situation, a relationship that does not exist.  I was pining for a happy family where everyone is there to support each other.  That is not my family,  my family has real problems.

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The Real Meaning Of Tolerance

July 1, 2010 by  
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Tolerance is a word that gets tossed around by religious leaders, politicians and regular folks as if it was a Frisbee on amphetamines.  But what about the real meaning behind the word and not just that which gets people elected and praised?

It is easy to be tolerant when our immediate social environment is made out of like minded individuals.  It is the old preaching to the choir syndrome.  But what happens when we are confronted by ideas and people that are not only foreign to us but completely opposite?  How do stout Democrats converse with Republicans?  How atheists converse with committed religious individuals?

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Meaning Of Life

May 9, 2010 by  
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“When the world seems to be falling apart, stick to your own trajectory; hang onto your own ideals and find kindred spirits. That’s the rule of life.”
– Joseph Campbell

I am often reading, thinking, searching and writing articles about life.  Since I was a child I have been perplexed by the inequities and randomness of life.  I search for myself but share the path and the findings.  I search because I don’t want to accept – and I know – what is presented and obvious about life as its totality.  It would be too despairing if it was so.

I am a second generation Jewish Brazilian woman.  I’m the granddaughter of Russian and Polish immigrants that left behind all their possessions to start anew in a foreign country, and I’m the daughter of a woman abandoned by her father.  Depression runs in my family and a sense of worth is a foreign feeling.

When I was eighteen I left home and moved to the US because I wanted my heart beat to beat with the world.  I needed to be out there.

In my adulthood I have had many experiences, some good and some bad, just like everybody else. And my greatest pain is having lost my husband to cancer.

My story is just like yours.  But when I step outside myself and see the world, the quest that started in my childhood for a deeper meaning, becomes a closer reality.

I believe we lead a push and pull life.  We know life is more than our day to day.  We know it is more than succeeding at a job, being famous, or wealthy.  It is even more than being a member of a family but somehow we can’t trust that.  So we run back to putting one foot in front of the other always scared that something bad is going to happen; afraid of thinking outside of the box.

By no means do I think I know where life comes from and why.  I of course understand evolution etc. but what about the very first first?  Anyway, I do know, as I continue to expose myself to life and dig into who I am with courage and honesty, I open my heart to love and compassion.   And maybe one day, I’ll get to experience what Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor (http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight.html) said about her transformational experience: “my earthly body dissolved and I melted into the universe.”  And if that is too new age for you, another gain from being connected to life in a deeper way is a greater contentment and acceptance and a great ability to laugh your heart out.

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Mother’s Day Quotes

May 8, 2010 by  
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“A suburban mother’s role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after.” Peter De Vries

“It would seem that something which means poverty, disorder and violence every single day should be avoided entirely, but the desire to beget children is a natural urge.” Phyllis Diller

“Women’s Liberation is just a lot of foolishness. It’s the men who are discriminated against. They can’t bear children. And no one’s likely to do anything about that.” Golda Meir

“All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That’s his.” Oscar Wilde, “The Importance of Being Earnest”

“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” Sophia Loren, “Women and Beauty”

“A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest.” Irish Proverb

“God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.” Jewish Proverb

“You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.” William D. Tammeus

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.  Tenneva Jordan

The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. Honoré de Balzac

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