Although loneliness and solitude are often thought to be the same experience, nothing could be further from the truth.
For a long time in my life I felt lonely. Even when I was married living in New York, I felt lonely. The reasons were: 1 – I was terribly unhappy in my marriage and 2 – I didn’t have a healthy relationship with my own self.
Feeling unhappy in a relationship is a relatively easy situation to fix. Sooner or later one of the two – if not both – start a process of separation. Now creating a relationship with oneself is a bit more complicated because it requires courage and commitment. Courage to embrace all aspects of our being – what we consider “good” and what we consider “bad” – and commitment, because it will take time to form a bond.
Once you decide to get to truly know yourself, solitude becomes the space and time to make it happen.