Freeing Ourselves From Labels

December 20, 2010 by  
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Humans are obsessed with labels.  I’m not talking about designer labels.  I’m talking about labels we give each other such as: “she’s a very kind person”, “he always does the right thing” or “she’s selfish”.  I think the reason we label one another is to quickly process and identify who others are to us and who we are to them.  But that is a very superficial way to know each other.  We are not labels on a bottle.  We are complex and complicated.

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How To Stop Labeling Ourselves And Others

August 11, 2010 by  
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I am a widow.

I tell myself to not share with people I meet, at least right away, this fact about my life.  But time and time again within the first half hour of a conversation I blurt out: “You know I am a widow.”

Being a widow has become my new identity.  It is as if I’m saying to the world “I know pain, and so I understand.”

I tell myself being a widow should not be my identity.   Why not pick loved with all my heart and been loved with everything?  More attractive and reflective of my history.

For some reason for most of us, loss and negativity have more intensity than love and happiness.  How many times a smile on our faces has gone unnoticed?  But what about a tear?  We can always see those.

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Beware Of Labels

May 21, 2010 by  
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What am I talking about?  Here it goes: “A nice girl wouldn’t act this way”, “ A responsible man wouldn’t do this or that?”.

We have created labels and now we struggle between living our lives as we see it and living up to and within the labels that we have helped create.

So let’s be real honest; good girls sometimes want to be sexual while still being good mothers, girlfriends, friends, and neighbors.  Strong men sometimes need to be vulnerable and have a good cry.

These labels, established by society and embraced by us, only serve to stop us to fully being ourselves and living our lives without guilt.

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