Learn To Enjoy Your Successes

October 24, 2011 by  
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We all need to work towards something.  That something can be just about anything; a house, a job, fitness, relationship.   It just needs to be something we can gather our energy and work towards.

These goals are important because they lay out our paths and help us focus.  It is in their pursuit that we will make our choices and gain knowledge.

Having goals is an end into itself.  Succeeding is a whole other ball game; nice but not necessary.

If my dream is to be a writer then as I write, create, and try to get to the next level, I fulfill my dream.  I strategize, I learn, I share. f my goal is to be successful and nothing else, then I don’t get to appreciate the process and most likely will feel like a loser if I don’t achieve a level of success that I find acceptable.

We don’t have control over outcomes.  We only have control of process. Attaching a sense of happiness and fulfillment to an outcome is a recipe for sadness.

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Transforming Through Pain

August 6, 2011 by  
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“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” – Stephen Vincent Benet

I had a conversation with a friend a few days ago, about turning pain into self-knowledge.  My friend was having trouble understanding how hurting could have any positive aspect such as wisdom.  I told her by embracing with awareness that which is painful we allow suffering to have a transformational quality.

Recently, my father came very close to dying.  As I now am a widow, the possibility of losing my father took on an added layer to my possible loss.  But, instead of dulling my pain, every night after making sure my mom was okay, I would spend time with myself and let the full impact of what was happening take hold of me.  It was not easy to feel the full force of loss one more time.  But, by doing so I was able to understand that loss is a part of life as much as happiness is.  I was reminded in a deep level that in the human journey, experiences – good or bad – is what creates wisdom and compassion in every one of us.  There is great humility in acceptance, and when we do so, we transform.

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