Anyone Can Find Contentment Today

August 19, 2011 by  
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Posted below is an interesting post about the meaning of life. The central idea is there is no meaning out there to be found, but only the meaning we make.

I fully agree with the post. You can give two different people a set of circumstances and they will feel and react differently.  One person might find meaning in the situation.  The other may not.  So what makes these two people feel differently? Who they are.  What they bring to the experience.

Meaning is a very personal experience. I may find meaning in writing while someone else could experience it as sheer hell. That is why no one can tell another how to live their lives in order to find meaning and contentment.  Actually to me meaning equals contentment.

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Things We Can Live Without

March 10, 2011 by  
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Really like the post the post below from O Magazine.  It’s simple and direct. It encourages us to own up our opinion.  It doesn’t mean we are right, it just means it is our opinion.  And no need to be humble about it.

The post addresses the difference between being single and being alone.  We can be single and not alone.  And we can be in a relationship and alone.  Loneliness comes from a disconnect with our own selves.

It also reminds us not to be vulnerable or open to negative people.  Spend fifteen minutes with someone who is negative, and the sunshine you had seen before will change into a cloudy day.

Indulge in the little things that bring you pleasure. Life is to be lived today and creating pleasurable moments makes our spirits soar. Sometimes when I need a little pampering, I make myself a great meal accompanied by a nice bottle of wine.  Or I schedule a facial or a massage. How can you pamper yourself?

Why not write your own six things you can live without?  Once you have your own specific list remind yourself of it as often as you can.

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Author and political commentator Donna Brazile reveals six things she never wants to think about again—and you don’t need them either.

The words “in my humble opinion.” It is never humble and it is never delivered as opinion.

Energy sucks (a.k.a Negative Nancies, Debbie Downers, and Sad Sids). These are the people who find the cloud around every silver lining. If you can’t cut them out of your life entirely, turn your interactions with them into a game. When my neighbor says, “I hate this horrible weather!” I say, “Isn’t horrible weather great? It means I don’t have to wash my car!” Continued…

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Redefining Success

February 5, 2011 by  
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Excellent post by Douglas LaBier on today’s Huffington Post.

It talks about a movement of change and transformation taking place today.  A shift of values in the midst of wars and instability.  It is a significant time in human history where we have the chance to find more fulfilling ways to spend our lives.  We are talking about meaning.  And we are all participating in this moment either passively or actively.

The values bought by our society of personal power and success as being the goals to achieve are being debunked.  We now know being rich and powerful alone does not bring personal satisfaction and meaning to anyone.

As our world becomes intimately interconnected we become more aware of different cultures and ways of living. We realize living just for ourselves is a path to hollowness and dissatisfaction.  So much to do and so much to learn that involves only our interest and curiosity without the chains that keeps us searching for the next step up on the ladder.

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Time To Accept We Can’t Change Others

February 1, 2011 by  
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Here is a hard one to learn; we can’t change others but we can change ourselves.  Why do I say it is hard?  Because we are so attached to proving our truth, intent and fairness are right that we keep coming up with new ways to express them.  And every attempt only brings us frustration and disappointments.

There is nothing wrong with trying to communicate our thoughts and feelings but what becomes a waste is when it is obvious that the recipient is not ready or doesn’t want to see things in a different way.  No matter how many alternatives you present for a different type of interpretation or relationship, you are not heard.  The other is stuck in their position and methodology and is not going to change no matter what we do.

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Changing The World, A Tissue At A Time

January 20, 2011 by  
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Compassion doesn’t only mean stopping wars, feeding the hungry or ending the AIDS crisis.  Compassion in its most simple form is our human ability of for a moment being able to step into someone else’s shoes and understand their dilemma.

In 2007, when I first walked into the infusion center at Cedars Sinai Medical Center with my late husband,  I was taken by fear.  I looked around to the 30 – 40 people there all hooked up to a bag containing chemicals strong enough that signs were posted in the bathrooms asking patients to flush twice.  Chris and I looked for two seats together and waited for a nurse to come and hook him up as well.

Immersed in my pain, I turned my face away from Chris because of the tears running down my face. I didn’t want him to see them.  A woman sitting next to a man getting his infusion got up, picked up a tissue and without saying a word handed it to me.

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The Close Relationship Between Work And Well-Being

November 18, 2010 by  
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Found the below article on today’s Huffington Post.  It talks about a shift in what people are looking for in terms of work.  Whereas in the past financial compensation and power were key, today a certain amount of freedom and meaning are top of the list.

I think it is an interesting discussion because it points back to what we discuss on this site; that purpose and well-being exist in the exploration of ourselves and the relationships we establish with others and our environment.  The illusion that money and power alone could provide for happiness is being shown for what it is; short-sighted.

Many of us are pushing back to the higher demands being placed on our time and attention and are purposely carving out time for friends, family and solitude.

If you have the luxury to choose the line of work you can perform, than finding something that is more in line if you ideals of well-being should be something to pursue with enthusiasm.  After all, work has an intimate relationship with meaning.

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Finding Real Meaning In Our Lives

September 9, 2010 by  
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Angie Rubin

Tuesday afternoon I had a lengthy conversation with a friend who is also a therapist.   We talked about meaning, fame and success; all important themes in my life.

For most of my life meaning and success have meant cause and effect; there is no meaning without success.  Because success’ currency in our society is fame and fortune, I for many years felt my life unimportant.

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August 25, 2010 by  
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How to achieve a sense of well-being.

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Find What Really Matters To You And Have A Meaningful Life

July 26, 2010 by  
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I must ask you again to indulge my story telling ways as I go around the world to make my point.

Saturday night I watched Valkyrie with Tom Cruise.  The film tells the story of the last attempt by German officials to assassinate Adolf Hitler.

It is not a great film but the real story is; men who saw wrong and risk their own lives to make it right.

I often talk and think about what gives meaning to our lives.  These German soldiers, Nelson Mandela, and many others throughout history, show us in a clear way what it is to believe in something so much that they are willing to lay down their lives for it.  But having meaning in life doesn’t have to involve life or death or big statements.  To most of us it means connecting to what is important and giving it its due respect.

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Five Steps To A Happier Life

May 19, 2010 by  
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Nobody can guarantee or be guaranteed happiness forever but there are a few things that we can do every day that will help us have more satisfaction and a better outlook in life.

Below are some ideas in how to live a happier life.

There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so – William Shakespeare

  1. Be a Part of Something You Believe In – It can be any type of organization that supports a social cause. This activity will act as an anchor by giving meaning to your life no matter what else is going on.  Helping others or doing something for the environment gets us out of our heads and gives us a feeling of accomplishment. It will also get you involved with others and give you responsibilities.
  2. Share Time with Friends and Family – This one seems obvious but so many of us get so involved with work that we forget that friends and family feed our hearts. Feeling loved and belonging to a group gives us the inner strength to go out into the world.
  3. Reflect on the Good – Quite often people concentrate too much of their attention on negative outcomes and leave no time to reflect on their successes.  It’s natural for a person to want to correct undesirable circumstances and focus closely on doing so, but there must be a healthy balance in the allocation of personal awareness.  It is important to mindfully reflect on the good while striving diligently to correct the bad.  A continuous general awareness of your daily successes can have a noticeably positive affect on your overall emotional happiness.
  4. Be Honest – Being truthful without being hurtful is key to our well being.  Lying to ourselves and others create an environment of negativity.  Always tie loose ends and try to leave things on a good note so you can move on without having emotional strings attached.
  5. Slow Down And Enjoy The Simple Pleasures – We are always in such a hurry that we never get to appreciate all the gifts that are given to us on a daily basis.  A tender moment, a beautiful sunset, laughter, a pleasant smell, these are things that enrich our lives and give us pleasure.  But if we are always running we don’t see any of it.  Small things, such a nice meal with a loved one, has the ability to give us true fulfillment.

Really give it a try to these five life altering suggestions.  You’ll see how much more you’ll be able to get out of life.

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