Riding The Waves Of Change

February 8, 2012 by  
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“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” -Andre Gide

One of the definitions in Merriam-Webster dictionary for change is: “to make a shift from one to another.”  In psychological terms that is what change means; at the start we are A and when we are done we are Z.

Now, along the way we have to go through the entire alphabet and that is most often extremely chaotic.  The reason is simple.  We are comfortable being A.  We know how to respond to people and things.  When we do get to Z, we will also be okay.  Again we will be comfortable being Z and we’ll know how to think and respond.

The problem with changing is all the uncertainty and uneasiness one needs to go through between being A and being Z.  The journey is the process of breaking down a way of being in life while building a new one.

It is common, while going through the process of changing, to doubt ourselves and where we are going.  It is easy to feel oneself lost in the chaos.

Change usually starts from an intellectual need.  We realize something about us or our lives needs to be different.  Then intellectually we draft a course of action.  Thoughts like: “I’m going to do this from now on in an XYZ way” or “I’m going to feel about this from now on in this new XYZ manner” decorate our planning.

This process of intellectually mapping out our destination is correct.  We need to know where we want to get to.  But chaos starts during the second phase when our psychology and feelings get actively involved in the process.  Now, we are dealing in new territory where every different sensation is a bridge to many other feelings and history.

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Living A Non-Stressful Life

August 14, 2011 by  
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‘Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis
on which the world earth revolves – slowly, evenly, without
rushing toward the future. Live the actual moment.
Only this moment is life.’ ~Thich Nhat Hanh

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines stress as: a - a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation B : a state of bodily or mental tension resulting from factors that tend to alter an existent equilibrium.

We all have stress in your lives, that’s a fact.  We worry about money, health, relationships, and tasks.  These issues will not go away, but how we deal with them is the difference between living a stressful life and a healthy life.

In a world where we are bombarded with information and so much is asked of us, not taking conscientious steps to diminish the effects of stress is not an option.  If we just let ourselves go into this ocean of time constraints and demands we will certainly drown.

Below are five steps I believe can help anybody live a more satisfying life:

1 – Coming to terms that we are only human with limited amount of time and energy.

2 – Realizing some things are out of our control.

3 – Taking deep breaths throughout our day.  Breathing helps to ground us.

4 – Be fully present in everything we do.  If we concentrate on one task at a time the feeling of    being overwhelmed will diminish substantially.

5 – Include some pleasurable in our everyday lives.

These five steps are simple and together create a new way of being where we are in charge of our time and contentment.

Imagine not feeling 100% responsible for everything that happens to you and to the people around you.  Imagine not feeling pressured to do a million other things while completing one task.  Imagine feeling grounded.  And imagine that every day you can do something pleasurable for yourself which re-energizes and fulfills.  That’s what a life without uncontrolled stress is like.

We can all do it.  It just takes wanting and committing.  Happy stress free life!

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