How Storytelling Saved My Life

August 7, 2011 by  
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Sharing our stories allow us to understand and have compassion for ourselves.  It also shows others that none of us are perfect or have perfect lives.  By honestly sharing we create a human community.

By Edward Grinnan, Special to CNN

One spring day 25 years ago, I found myself perched on the 21st floor windowsill of a Denmark hotel room, holding what I thought would be my last alcoholic drink. I planned to give it up in a big way.

For all these years, I never told that story publicly, despite being the editor-in-chief of Guideposts, an interfaith magazine in which ordinary people tell their own stories of hope. My job is to persuade and help people tell those stories.

I’ve long known that such stories are our best medium for forging connections with our fellow human beings. They help span the breach of solipsism to unify the human experience…continued

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Yes, I Suck: Self-Help Through Negative Thinking

April 16, 2010 by  
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I was reading the Huffington Post today and following on different links until I came across the piece below from Time Magazine on positive thinking.  Based on many studies the piece concludes that rather than keeping a mantra going of how wonderful we are, if we actually acknowledged our thoughts and feelings, we would have a more fulfilling and lasting experience.

I’ve always been of the mind that if we keep repeating something that we know not to be true like “I’m so happy” when we feel miserable, it will cause even more distress because all we are doing is underscoring the differences between what we are saying and how we are feeling.

Acknowledging how we feel and then moving on is an honest and courageous way to deal with our lives with lasting results.  Please read on.

TIME MAGAZINE

By John Cloud

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In the past 50 years, people with mental problems have spent untold millions of hours in therapists’ offices, and millions more reading self-help books, trying to turn negative thoughts like “I never do anything right” into positive ones like “I can succeed.” For many people — including well-educated, highly trained therapists, for whom “cognitive restructuring” is a central goal — the very definition of psychotherapy is the process of changing self-defeating attitudes into constructive ones.

But was Norman Vincent Peale right? Is there power in positive thinking? A study just published in the journal Psychological Science says trying to get people to think more positively can actually have the opposite effect: it can simply highlight how unhappy they are…Continued

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